Whats the best way of making myself feel better? I feek so used and useless :(?

Question

I just left my job, im really finding it hard 2 find a new one. I just moved out of my home, back to my mums and on top of that iv just been used by this guy i know, i know that im vunerable at the moment...so i feel like i would do anything to make myself feel better. And now it just feels like kno 1 wants me around. Im in a state of desperation!! Plz can someone just give me some words of wisdom?

Answer 1

Be yourself and what you want out of life and go for it, don't listen to these block heads because there are s**m.

Answer 2

Well about the job, don't worry you will find a good one, remember with time and patience, good things come. And I agree, moving back to your mom was probably as smart thing, you will have time to reflect with out much pressure and be better off with family at the moment. About the guy.. well everyone goes through bad experiences, but a good worthy guy will come your way soon.. and there is someone out there for everyone, you just have to learn how to wait for that one to come.. so please cheer up and see that not all things are as bad as they seem. Everyone has their ups and downs,but that's what makes us stronger and grow. Don't worry, for now you should try to listen to some good music, talk to your friends, start a project, or a goal that you always wanted to accomplish.. like decorating your room, writing something of that sort. By the way.. I seriously doubt that you are useless. You will bounce back from this and you will probably get something good out of this. Cheer Up!:)

Answer 3

Jenna, I have 10 points in YA 2 months ago, and have been out of work for the summer and now have close to 3000.  I feel ya.  Just remember that everything you go through gives you character.  If you never went through bad times, you wouldn't appreciate the good as much.  People who don't suffer are usually jerks.  As soon as you find a new job, you will feel better.  Just try your best everyday, that's all you can do really.  As far as the guy- you used him.  To h**l with him.  Watch an episode of s*x and the City.  That always makes me feel more powerful as a women.  Keep your head up, you can see the sun that way.  God bless.

Answer 4

Hey Jenna. Start thinking positively for a start. With regards to employment I'm in the same boat as you at the moment but something will come along, guaranteed. Moving back to mums is only a temp measure but surely a good move. Someone near by that loves you regardless. As for the user, sod him. Every person in their own way is beautiful therefore every person out there has someone waiting for them, your time will come. Look in the mirror and no matter how you feel about what you see think of all the good things about what you see, I bet your eyes are beautiful. Good luck kiddo. x

Answer 5

Its called confidence and yours has been knocked to h**l, moving in with your mum is a good idea, sometimes we need to step back before we move forward.  Something will come up job wise.  You need to start liking yourself before anyone else can.  Your not in a state of desperation your bordering on a state of depression and thats harder to cure.  Stop looking at the rain and see if you can find the rainbow, its gonna be peeking out from behind a cloud somewhere, hang in there and it will show up

Answer 6

Ok, when it comes to wisdom, I'm not the best, but I'll try.  I too have had trouble finding a full-time job - I have lost so much (including the man I love) and then my best friend (my Mum) died 3 weeks ago.  Every day is hard and I really try to carry on because of my daughter - I love her so, so much.

I feel so sad that you feel no-one wants you around.  I'm not God's gift, but I'm here for you if you want me.  Please don't hesitate to contact me.  I promise I won't give up on you.  Take care, sweetheart. x*x

Answer 7

Hi hun

Life is full of ups and downs - when you're low, it's hard to believe things will improve, but they will! There are so many things you can do. I was in your position, and wallowed for a while, but things will get beter - keep on hoping, keep on persevering.

What worked for me:

Listen only to those you respect and are positive - not those who you disrespect or are negative

Replace bad habits with good ones - though you must do this for six weeks for it to be permenant

Surround youself with positive influences, get rid of negative ones, including so-called toxic "friends"

you MUST love yourself, otherwise how can anyone else love you

do daily gratitudes - this will literally transform your outlook

Have faith that the right guy is out there for you - start visualising what he might be like - respect etc

don't feel alone - I was where you were more than once, so low; so many of us are in the same place right now

promise you will be single for 6 months and find out what you are like as an individual - you will grow in strength

Set yourself some long term goals to aim for, and some short-term intentions to live by

Never, ever, ever beat yourself up

Never speak in the negative - turn it aroud to the positive (e.g. I will do 10 mins of exercise daily is soooo much better than I don't want to be fat :) )

I have faith you will be ok - now you need to believe in yourself - good luck xxxxx

Answer 8

ge tback into school and find something that you will like .