Whats the best way to come out to your parents?

Question

Iv told all my friends, I'm just having trouble telling my parents, they're so narrow minded! And i just don't know how to bring it up in conversation, would it be easier to do it when they're in a good mood? or do it when they're not so they can get all their anger out easier, whats the best way?

Answer 1

Go straight to the point. Put it ironically, and prepare to discuss the talk. You must make them feel monsters, for not having make easier your coming out. Will be painful for them,but is the easier way for acceptance.  

Answer 2

I don't think there can ever be a "right time". I think if you want to come out to them you just have to do it. You could always write them a letter, which might help you get all your feelings out because sometimes when you talk you miss things out or they come out differently etc.

Sit your parents down and just be honest with them. Come out with everything you want to say and reassure them that you are still their son and you're no different to how you were before they didn't know you were g*y.

Ultimately you're their son so they will still love you, even if you think they're narrow-minded! You'll always be their son. Here are some websites which might help you in coming out to your Mum and Dad:

http://www.outproud.org/brochure_coming_...

http://www.ehow.com/how_17146_come-paren...

http://www.teenwire.com/infocus/2004/if-...

Answer 3

You have already received a number of good replies (and some c**p ones, too).

Do your parents really need to know at this stage?  If it will cause life to be more difficult consider whether keeping quiet for the moment might be best.

Nick

:)

Answer 4

I started out by asking them what they thought of g**s...

"They're fine. They're people too."

I was reliefed at the answer. My Mom could already tell I was g*y, my Dad, not so much.

I told them about how I've never found girls attractive (I was 13 and never had a gf before). But there was this boy at school I thought was really cute.

They got the hint.

My Mom spent the night hugging me and telling me she was proud of me, my Dad just sat there then went to bed. He was surprised but he still loves me and accepts me.

Answer 5

I don't have any great advice. i have four kids and I would love them all regardless of thier sexual choices. Yes, i am a Christian also. I know that it will be hard to tell them. And I'm not 100% sure you should tell them. Only you know how they might take it. Do you ahve any cool siblings to talk this over with? Or a counselor? Good luck.

Answer 6

Sit them down at a table with no one else around, but be on the opposite side just in case one of them tries to get up and run after you, idk if that will happen but i usually hear narrow minded= homophobic

then say

Mom, Dad, it wasn't a choice, but i'm g*y

Answer 7

im glad you are not my kid

Answer 8

Age plays a MAJOR role here...meaning that if you're in puberty your sexual orientation may not be 'stabilized' yet...so you might want to consider that fact.  You know your parents better than anyone...and you most likely know 'what to expect'...  There is NO LAW that says anyone HAS TO come out...  Your sexual orientation is your own personal, private business...no one elses...  Why not just get through your college, find a job and your own apartment and do what comes naturally (for you).  They'll 'catch on' soon enough...and you won't have to put them through the 'trauma'...  Just a thought...

Answer 9

Naked. Be open.

Answer 10

If you know that their reaction will be negative thus strain your relationship why do you feel compelled telling them? Use your good judgement and there is no best way unless your parents are "open minded". If you absolutely need to tell them for whatever reason then choose a time that is right for you and prepare yourself for any negative outcome....

Answer 11

tell them you have something important to tell them then si down and tell them then the hard part is done tthy cant change how you feel so thts wat i would do hope this has helped you to decide wat to do  

Answer 12

bring over your "friend" and while ur talking, make out with him in front of them, then turn to them end say, what you didn't know? How many boys ask for a ribbon dancer for there 10th birthday?

Answer 13

just introduce them to ur bf.tell them this is ..... and we're dating.

Answer 14

Why not make it a hypothetical situation?

First you start talking to them about g*y rights. Get a bit of information on where they stand on this issue.. Do it in terms of a political debate. You know: That sort of thing you discuss over the dinner table with your family at times. ;)

Then, when you get a bit into it, pose a "hypothetical" question: "Mom, dad..? What would you do if one of YOUR kids were g*y?". If they completely freak out and say things such as: "That person would burn in h**l forever!!", you might want to back out of it right then and further consider what you want to do on a later stage. If they are more positive, along the lines of: "Of course we would love hir anyway!!", come out right away. I did it in quite a similar way, and it worked...

Good luck! ;)

PS: Also, it is WAY better to do it when they are in a good mood! I promise you that.. Please do take my word for it.

Answer 15

A phrase told to me was "don't come out of the closet until it's YOUR closet" basically don't say anything to your parents until you are out of home and they can't do anything about it.

Alternatively start to drop hints, invite friends round for a chat, watch fashion programs, and decide if you are g*y or bi, you parents should be a little more accepting if your bi...

Answer 16

when your out living on your own just in case your narrow minded parents flip on you.....I would do it over the telephone and let soak in their minds and give them time to adjust.... i dont know its your own choice on how you want to come out

Answer 17

Try writing them a letter.

Answer 18

Wait until you have a boyfriend and bring him round for tea ^^ your not living a lie if they are just assuming your straight... mmm i think it would be best to tell your mum first randomly just say it good mood is best i think... or you could leave this page on and leave the computer for them to find..then if they like disapprove they can choose to ignore it or confront you about it