Whats the best way to get over a break up?

Question

i was engaged for 2 years to the girl i consider the most wonderful in the world..we broke up about 10 minutes ago, we started to always argue and she gave up on us. im here crying i dont even know if i can get over her

whats the best ways to get over a person? i heard erasing them from your life works..what do you think

Answer 1

Ask yourself what you gain by dwelling on what has passed.  If the break up was over something that is out of your hands, it is best to remind yourself that you deserve to be happy.  Wrap your mind around the idea that your life WILL go on without her.  As wonderful as she is, it wasn't meant to be or you would still be together.  The universe has other plans for both of you. There is someone else that you are meant to meet in the future who will teach you more about life.   Just appreciate the time you did have together, and try to take with you some lessons that you can apply to your next relationship.  Let this girl serve as proof that the world is FILLED with other wonderful women.  She is not the last one on Earth.  In the meantime, occupy your time with stable friends, DO NOT call the ex (ESPECIALLY WHEN DRUNK!)  Get out of the house and do things that please you.   Stay positive, stay active, and above all BE GOOD TO YOURSELF.    

Answer 2

Do you want to really get over her? If you do love her enough, I encourage you to ask her why she gave up. Ask her to be absolutely honest. Only if you do love her - it's worth pursuing. Meet up and talk it through, you won't regret it no matter what the consequence will be. ... and 2 years of being engaged is a long time to have gotten to know each other even more - assuming that your relationship was truly 'most wonderful'.

But if you both really know that there is no more hope, then this will take time to heal and move on. Yeah, sudden waves of loneliness will hit you, and that void will consume you (I'm currently in this situation). It's dreadful and painful, but you must hang in there cos you are not alone. Talk to your friends, close ones, the ones you can trust, confiding and expressing your sadness and emptiness will help you heal.

Answer 3

((HUGS))  Did you guys talk about why you were arguing?  Could you find the heart of the matter?  Do you think you could solve it and she would try again?  

But if you seriously want to move on,  erasing her from your life makes it a whole lot easier to move on.  

Believe me, if you are already arguing before the wedding, you don't want to endure years of it.  I have personal experience.  My marriage recently went down the toilet.  I don't think we could say anything without it turning into an argument and it was like that before we got married too.  I thought it was the wedding plans and stuff, but it really escalated after we were married.  

Answer 4

(Round 2)

          get back in the game!

          doge that punch,

           then find someone else.

            ( no one is completely perfect! )

Answer 5

it takes  about six or seven months for the pain to go away but it will. put your all into work or school. someone else will come along then you will never be able to live without her. it is a cycle. it has only been 10 min she may come back. if she does and leaves again then do not let her come back.

Answer 6

i think im going to be in the same situation soon too

i can only say that only by time you can get over this...

time is the best...

you will feel so lonely at the begining but after things will get better....

IT needs time!

Answer 7

in my experience? the best way is to let the pain eat everything away. even parts of yourself (since a part of you is attached to her). that way, when you don't feel the pain anymore, you'll be fine when you come face-to-face with her again in the future. that usually isn't the case when you just keep yourself busy and forget, because you'll always remember. you're only truly over somebody when you remember but aren't affected anymore.

Answer 8

You get back in there!

Answer 9

I had a similar situation as you never ate, hardly slept, didn't go out for a week. What helped me the most was my sister she got me through it. But if you don't have a sibling ask your best friend to help you.

Answer 10

grow some balls  

Answer 11

This might not be the best thing to do, but it is the best way to get over the break up:

Try to think of mostly the bad times you had with her. Remember the arguments and the times she just Drove You Nuts. The reason you are sad is that you feel like you are losing something wonderful. She probably was wonderful . . . . at times. But if your relationship devolved into nothing but frequent arguments, then she must not have been entirely wonderful. No one is.

Therefore, there must have been times when she was awful. Think about those, and try to remember that by breaking off the engagement, you just avoided a lifetime of potential misery. Focus on that!

Next step: focus on your hobbies. Spend a lot of time on things you enjoy.

Answer 12

Erasing them from your life helps for many people - out of sight out of mind! I recommend that you get on with your life, as fast as possible. find a new girlfriend - even if it is only temporary. Or just get layed, perhaps use dating/s*x contact sites like www.secret4play.net... there you might easily find someone for a one night stand, and that may help you feel better about yourself - and help you get over your ex much faster... good luck:)

Answer 13

Um. 10 Mins ago? Hmmm. Cant you call her tomorrow and work it out? If not ... Find another girlfriend. just like you were in that 2 year relationship so was she. so she will miss you! why did you guys break up anyways? GET BUSY. Do hobbies..read books, Hung with friends, go to the bar and meet a lady.... JUST KEEP BUSY AND FINE SOMEONE ELSE. THAT ALWAYS WORKS.

Answer 14

I think you are over reacting at the moment.  Go to bed, get some sleep and think on it in the morning.  She is gonna do the same, and probably by tomorrow she will give a call and this little incident will be like it never happened.

Answer 15

I went through this. It literally made me sick.  I was depressed for a very long time. 7 months to be exact, lol. I still remember. That's how traumatizing it was.  But you know what? I got over it.  I spent a lot of time with my kids and also with my family and friends.  There are worse things going on in this world and in the lives of others.  We are so blessed in many ways that we take for granted.  I'm not trying to get all religous on you but I just mean we have a lot more bigger fish to fry than worrying about a broken heart.  I can guarantee you someone else is out there going through worse and would kill to have your problem. Rest assured you will be okay and when you least expect it, cupid's gonna shoot you right in the a.s.s. You will be okay I promise!  DO NOT make it a point to date other people right away.  This in my opinion never works and actually makes you feel worse.  Take your time and enjoy the single life.

Answer 16

men are handicap when it come to argument, women they argue for distant and irritation, they talk until you shut up. my point is you got to lets them be right all the time, and just nod your head and agree with her and smile. yeah, a word called "yield".

Answer 17

It took me to get over my ex-wife nearly 7 years.

Allow time to do its magic work.

Prayer and meditation might help too.

Don't think of the past and don't dwelve in the past.

When you think of your ex girl friend, try to divert your mind, by doing something.

Do some sports, or exercise, which will divert your mind.

The fastest way to forget a girl, is to find another girl to replace once who went away.

Don't try the way of taking alcohol or anyother harmful stuffs.

But, I have not done that, and hope not to do the same thing soon.

good luck to you.