Whats the best way to handle your child being picked on in school?

Question

My daughter just started Kindergarten yesterday and two little girls were being mean to her...I want to punch their moms in the face but I can't so what do I do??

Answer 1

i would talk to the parents, if that doesn't work, stick with your plan :D

Answer 2

Call the teacher and tell her what's going on.  Get used to it..this will happen throughout life : (

Answer 3

Teacher.  Principal. Parents.  yea. Talk to them all if that's what it takes.  And if that doesn't help you may have to kick some serious azz.

Answer 4

Give the teacher a heads up....in a non-confrontational way. Maybe the girls were having a bad day...or maybe they know each other from home or dance class or somewhere and were ganging up on your DD.

Volunteer in the classroom. That will allow you to see what goes on on a daily basis, and you will get a feel for which kids you *would* like to encourage your DD to play with. Kids who see someone's mom on a regular basis tend not to pick on that kid, KWIM?

Good luck!

Answer 5

I don't know the best way to handle it but I can tell you what I did.

My son is going to the 4th grade this upcoming school year. Last school year, he had trouble with this little boy bullying him. So, I went to the teacher and explained my concerns. Nothing happened. In fact, my son told me that because I went to the teacher, the boy that was bullying him got worse because he knew by my actions that my son had told me what was going on. So then next, I went to the school principal. The principal set up a meeting between the boy's father and me. The father seemed sympathetic and told the boy that if he touched my son again, he (the father) was going to get in touch with him (the boy). For about a month, the boy started bullying another kid in my son's class but had stopped messing with my son. My son felt sorry for the kid and decided to try and stand up for him. Soon after, the boy started bullying my son again. The next day after my son told me that he was messing with him again, I went up to the school, talked to the principal again, and this time she scheduled a meeting with the boy's mother. From that meeting, it was obvious to me where the boy got his attitude from. Her attitude was far different than the boy's father. She was loud, rude, and very abrasive. She was disrespectful to both the principal and me. Throughout the rest of the meeting I said nothing. I let the principal tell her how her actions and her son's actions wouldn't be tolerated and if it continued, he would be expelled. So then, the mother stood up as if she was trying to intimidate me and said, "if your @$$ hadn't started all this, none of this would be happening. " At that point, I got up to leave. I told the principal and the mother that if that boy touched my son again, my son was going to handle it however he saw fit. I went into my son's classroom and told his teacher that I told my son that if that boy touched him again, he had my permission to hit him. I explained to the teacher that I had tried to as civil as possible, pointed out to her that my son was one of the nicest kids in the class (which she agreed with) and didn't deserve to have to come to school in fear.

The next time the boy got up in my son's face, my son hit him in his chest so hard, it knocked the boy backwards. The boy did not mess with him again. I had asked my son if he could've gotten the boy to leave him alone, how come he didn't react sooner. As it turned out, my son feared getting in trouble and thought it best to let someone bully him everyday rather than have his teachers say that he was a bad kid. It made me feel bad that all of what I thought would've been the best way to handle it as an adult, was not because it produced no results.

Needless to say, my son will be going to a different school this upcoming school year.

Answer 6

Have you talked to your daughters teacher yet?  And if you have and she is still getting picked on you should then talk to the principal of her school.  Most schools do not tolerate bullying anymore and usually take action right away.  Also why do you say that you want to punch their mothers?  Have you talked to them?  I would not talk yet to the parents of the children that may be bullying, as most would never think that their children would do that so they would just deny it.. And really remember that most kids aren't evil they are just being kids, especially at the age you are talking about.

Answer 7

you can always talk to the teacher and see what is going on... at least the girls got into trouble.  also the teacher may not know everything that is going on... talk to the teacher and express your concern.  

Answer 8

This is rough... You would probably do good by speaking with her teacher. If this keeps up, then you should also talk with the school administration.

Finally, a polite and friendly conversation with the parents of the brats may also be helpful.

Cheers!

Answer 9

My daughter went through the same thing last year.  She is 8 and told me she was thinking of hurting herself because these kids made her feel so bad about herself. I had done everything from teacher conferences and so forth. None of this helped. I enrolled her into a Christian school this year, and while this is no guarantee against bullying the response from the teacher and principal will be much different. We are going to struggle to pay for this, but i am so glad my child will not have to ever think of harming herself over someones badly behaving child.

Answer 10

I think you should go over to the two parents and tell them that there daughter is being mean to you daughter. BUT first ask  you  daughter what they have done to her like words they said what did they do and then go tell the parent cause they have to learn that the daughter is being mean. And the daughter has to learn that they cant do that. Or you could tell you daughter to tell the teacher or stand up for herself. Do what your heart thinks. You seem like a good parent you'll know what to do.