Whats the legality of this? (Please read)?

Question

My brother is 30 years old and is living off of my parents.

Because of him, my parents have had financial obstacles over the years of their marriage and my father is forced to support a grown man who isnt even his son.

My Mother will NOT throw him out but he makes things so difficult on her. He refuses to pay any rent, bills, etc. and I'm positive he runs the bills up moreso than anyone else in the house.

When she mentions him paying anything to her he gives her grief and tells her she's a horrible mother, a psycho, etc. who doesn't love him.

It seems almost impossible for him to be made to get out on his own and be a man for the first time in his life.

My question is simple;

Is this legal? His name isnt on the lease and I was wondering if there was a way my mother could MAKE him pay rent, a portion of the bills, etc. by law?

(We rent our home).

Thank you!

Answer 1

They can kick him out.

If they choose to let him stay, then it is their responsibility.

If he refuses to leave when asked, then he is breaking the law.

Answer 2

Your mother is treating him like a child and h in turn is acting like a child.  Why should he have to work and pay bills like the rest of us if she is willing to do it for him?  I'm surprised your father hasn't left her over this.  She is putting him above her husband, you and herself.  She is not doing him a favor, she is ruining his life.  

Your mother could tell him to pay his share or leave, but she won't.  She started this and she is the only one who can end it.  What she should do its give him 30 days to get out and then go to court to evict him if necessary.  He will never grow up as long as she doesn't allow him to.  She is depriving herself and the rest of your family of letting him mature into an adult and enjoying the success he could have in life if your mother did not stand in his way.  She is depriving herself of the family he could have if she would allow him to grow up.

Why doesn't your father step in and tell him to get his lazy azz out?  This is more of a tragedy than you probably realize, she is depriving him of a life.  What will he do when your parents are dead and he can't support himself?

Answer 3

It's legal because your parents have done nothing to get him to move out. He has an understood month-to-month lease (for nothing apparently). In order to get him out, your parents need to provide written notice that the lease is terminated in 30 days if he doesn't agree to pay a certain amount for rent and utilities. Keep proof that you provided notice. If he still refuses to move out, they could begin eviction proceedings in court. You would need to contact the local court for details on this process.

Answer 4

If your parents want him out they could go through an eviction process, it sounds like it's unlikely that they would do this.  It is not illegal to sponge off your parents, but it sure should be embarassing...

Answer 5

How pathetic, im 25, so 5 years younger than him, and i already have a career thats going somewhere, he hasn't even gotten out of the house yet.

If i were his dad he'd have been out of the house at 19 unless he was attempting to pursue an education or some other form of bettering himself (I.E trades and such), i would not enable his lazyness.

If your mother will not throw him out, ask your father to do it, he's a resident, and it looks like he pays the bills, so he has the power to evict him.

You might just have to go against your mother's wishes.

Your brother needs to get a life, how can he even be content sitting at home at 30 years old, wasting his life? Is he even employed?