Whats the point living for nothing.?

Question

I am 18 have no interests, hobbies or qualifications and have just started work for a local TV shop.

I am never going to get anywhere in life and never going to get a girlfriend (don’t say “oh you will one day”) because I have heard that 100 times before. I get unbelievably nervous in social groups and basically missed out on the last 6 months of school because this girl made me nervous. I do nothing in my spare time but play around on the internet and I’m not good looking which doesn’t help anything.

So the question is, “what’s the point in living when you’re just going to waste your life working in a shop living by yourself.”

No answers please saying join a Religion!

Answer 1

Hi Tom,

  You have complete control over most of these things. You can choose to work on your social skills by seeing a counselor or therapist. You can choose to take small steps in social situations and gradually build your confidence and lessen your anxiety. If you choose to work in a shop and be alone, then that is your choice...but no one is making you do this. This is your life and you have the freedom to change things you are unhappy with. That being said, it is not always easy or a simple fix. Some things take quite a bit of hard work and motivation. I am 24 years old (female) and have never had a boyfriend. I also have severe social anxiety but I choose to work on these issues so one day I will be able to enjoy my life more and hopefully share it with someone. I used to be a hermit...but I made the decision to take back my life. I hope you choose to do the same.

Answer 2

wow, same here.....as far as "no interests, hobbies or qualifications"

but all i can tell you is, go to college or something....that's what i'm doing.

Answer 3

If you choose to be a loser, you will succeed.

Answer 4

Perhaps you have heard it a 100 times because IT IS TRUE.

Stop self pitying and make something out of yourself.You can do anything if you really want to.If you do not then your life is really meaningless.

What makes you think you are not good looking?we are our own worst critics.There is someone for everyone if you only look for them.

You are 18 and already you are questioning if your life is worth living.Oh brother.Your life has only just begun.Go out there and make something out of yourself.

Learn what your strenghts and weaknesses are by solving accurate personality tests and work on improving those traits.Find work that will enable you to use those strenghts and weaknesses that will one day also be strenghts.

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Oh and..join a Religion!Not.

Answer 5

First of all, stop saying negative comments to yourself such as "I am never going to get anywhere in life" THAT is what is holding you back...those negative statements. You can do WHATEVER you want, it takes DETERMINATION. The key is to never give up, and there is something that interests everyone...if you honestly *think* there is nothing that interests you, there could be something wrong... You're already saying negative things, which is a bad sign... Have you considered seeing some type of therapist?

Even though you're 18, and you probably think your life is already wasted, it isn't...you're still fairly young and you have your whole life ahead of you...don't give up.

Also, you WILL find a girl...even if you aren't exactly "looking" for one, it will happen eventually.

Answer 6

I agree that there is no point in living for nothing.  However you are assuming that your life has no meaning, which it does.  Look at the different roles you play in your family, community, and job.  Do you make the slightest bit of difference?  Yes, you do (even if you don't agree right now).  Your presence in the world has a purpose.  So what if you don't have a gf right now.  You probably don't need a gf until you can treat yourself well.  You are still very young and can do whatever you want.  Why aren't you going to college?  If you feel so much anxiety over social situations, you could go see a psychiatrist to get some meds to help you right now.  Anyways, your time will come, take some small steps to improve your life.  Good luck.

Answer 7

First off, DO NOT listen to any of the morons that come to this site only to call names and point out faults. No one is a loser and no one needs to hear a bunch of BS when they ask a serious question. Ignore the pathetic people who answer with stupid S**t.

The real point of life is to learn and experience all events to the fullest. Right now your lesson to learn may just well be, discomfort and how to push yourself out of your comfort zone. This is not about religion in case you were wondering. You are young and trying to find just where you fit in. Each thing you do, and don't do know, well, that will shape who you are for later. You may become some outgoing adrenalin junkie after you are done learning what its like to have no drive in life.

Its normal to be nervous. I say you need to talk to someone. It is possible you have a disorder where you need help with socializing. Nothing wrong with that.

You also sound a bit depressed. The symptoms you show are lack of enthusiasm, no motivation, self doubt, boredom, low self esteem, and a general lack of wanting to live..  Don't confuse this with me saying you are suicidal. I sure hope not.

You must be some what motivated if you have a job, but the way you talk, and the way people are, that is just not enough. There are medications to help your brain chemistry get back in balance so you think differently and you become more interested in the life you have been given. It is worth it. Your life is no less important than anyone Else's. And your life is no mistake.

Answer 8

You should take your time to do community service for people who can't even get jobs, they need your help. Go travel in a 3rd world country, do something for the world, while at the same time realize who you are.