Whats the point of all these parties?

Question

Whats the point in having a bridal shower, bachelorette and bachelor party plus a wedding and respection

Why can't guest just bring what ever gifts they want to bring to the wedding? I think having all that is just to much on your bridal party plus guest.

Please explain this to me!

Answer 1

I hear what you are saying!

I know some women who has 2 and 3 bridal Showers and gets gifts!

They last night out thing you should have to bring a gift to that party. Just you guys hanging out!

Then the wedding Day

Also it can flip on you one bride didn't even recive alot of stuff on their wedding Day at all!

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Answer 2

i guess bridal shower is a fun way to celebrate with ur girls and get free lingerie and toys. some people like to celebrate their last night as a single person. one last hooplah to get whatever they need out of their system.

im with you i think its too much to do it all...at least when ur not in that class where money is easily thrown around.  

some people just like to party and celebrate.

tradition...you either go with it or you dont.

Answer 3

I think there are too many parties involved too.  People are making WAY too big of a deal of their weddings today.  It should be about two people in love and wanting to spend their lives together, people are forgetting this.

Answer 4

I know what you mean. I take one gift to the wedding. That's it. If I went to a bachelorette party I might buy her a couple of drinks.

People who have 3-5 parties, plus expect a gift at the reception (and sometimes do the Cash Dance on top of that!) are just greedy!

Weddings should be about the marriage and about the wedding - I would never ask my friends to spend months and months coming to parties to celebrate the wedding. It is way too much to ask of anyone - and then some people get mad at you for not showing up to one of the many parties! It's unreal.

I just got married, and I didn't do this to my friends.

I saw a comment the other day (not on here) from a woman who was mad that her "friend" (her quotes) who did not show up to one of her bridal showers. One of. Seriously. This friend had shown up to the engagement party, another bridal shower (which she had helped plan), she was one of the bridesmaids, was helping to plan and pay for the bachelorette party, and of course would be at (and in) the wedding. The girl wanted to know if she should "kick her out of the bridal party." Unbelievable.

Answer 5

First of all, the people calling couples greedy for having a bunch of parties is not accurate. Just because a bride gets 3 bridal showers doesn't mean she's greedy. It means she was blessed with family and friends who want to do nice things for her. Brides and grooms don't tell people how many parties they want. They just get them.

None of the "parties" for weddings are required. There's no rule saying a couple MUST have a shower and a bachelor/ette party. These are things their families/friends/attendants do for the couple to celebrate their union and to show they are happy for them. I could understand your frustrations if couples literally told people they want *this* many parties and they want *that* many gifts, but that's not how it works at all.

Also, bringing gifts to these parties is optional. If you want/are able to afford a gift for the shower, the bachelorette party, and the wedding, good for you. If you think the couple would be fine getting just one gift from you, that's acceptable too. No one should be expected to give a gift to the brdie and groom. Of course, the whole point of a shower is to "shower" one with gifts, so if you only wanted to get one gift for the couple and save it for the actual wedding, all you'd have to do is decline the invitation to the shower.

There is really no problem with a couple getting a lot of parties to celebrate the biggest day of their lives.

ADDED: Oh, how lovely. More people on this site who obviously don't know what the "thumbing" option is really for. [Rolls eyes]

Answer 6

The point is to let family and friends share in the joy. It's part part of the price that you have to pay to get married, unless you want to just cut everyone out from all the fun.

The reception is held as a way to continue the party after the wedding. Also, when guests have travelled an hour or two to attend the wedding, it's held because it's courteous to provide them with a rest before they have to drive back. As awful as the food often is at a reception it's still better than a restaurant.

The bridal shower is held because, traditionally, the families of the couple want to make sure that the couple is set up for their married life. It gives a chance to have a more personal celebration than at the wedding reception where it is often a sit-down meal and/or choreographed events.

Bachelorette parties, I believe, are an excuse for the girls to go out to the bar, and again making the bride pay for what she's about to get. The bachelor party is more of the same, minus the raunchy aspect.

Answer 7

the parties are all different, the bridal shower is for all of the women to get together and hang out. the bachelorette and bachelor are the LAST night out single. it shouldn't be about the gifts...