Whats the point of hitting kids...?

Question

where does it lose it's effect.. I have seen so many parents beat their children not just spank.. but kick, slap on the face, punch. And the child would cry and cry.... I don't say anything, but you could see the fear in the childs eye's and i felt like crying... In my oppinion your just setting fear into the child.. which could turn into the child lying, and terribly violent when they grow up... I once saw this guy hit his son, and punched and kicked him to the floor and throw him against the wall.. nothing you could do it was in africa, and when i told the man to stop he told me to get out of his buissness.

Answer 1

Perhaps the reason some people beat their children is that doing so gives vent to their feelings.

If you have time, consider visiting

http://www.hulu.com/the-incredible-hulk

and clicking on the episode, "A Child in Need." Often bystanders don't intervene because they're unwilling or unable, but occasionally someone emerges who's overwhelmingly willing and incredibly able.

Answer 2

NEVER BEAT A CHILD!

THERE IS NO POINT, NO REASON, NO GOOD THAT CAN COME FROM IT.

YOUR ONLY PUTTING FEAR, CONFUSION, LOW-SELF ESTEEM AND HURT INTO SOMEONE WHO ISN'T EVEN OLD ENOUGH TO UNDERSTAND WHAT IS HAPPENING TO THEM.

AND USUALLY THAT CHILD GROWS UP TO EITHER LIVE A LIFE FULL OF ONE ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP AFTER ANOTHER OR EVEN BEAT THEIR OWN CHILDREN.

I KNOW FROM EXPERIENCE...I GREW UP IN A VIOLENT HOME AND ENDED UP WITH AN ABUSIVE BOYFRIEND BY 15 AND DEEP EMOTIONAL SCARS I WILL NEVER REALLY GET OVER.

YOU JUST DON'T DO THAT TO SOMEONE YOUR SUPPOSED TO BE PROTECTING AND CARING FOR.

PERIOD.

Answer 3

I suppose they do it to put fear in the child so they will listen. Short term its effective. Long term can lead to exactly what you said lying, and violent behavior. It's sad when you see things like that. Makes you just want to snatch the kid up and cuddle them. I have no problem with a smack on the hand or a swat on the butt for unruly younger children......example when my 17month old repeatedly touches the cord where the lamp is plugged in. But I could never beat my child or hit with a belt or anything like that. It's sad. I wish people would think of the long term effects they have on their children.

Answer 4

I spanked my son last night bc he pushed his sister out of her high chair but I could never imagine someone punching or kicking there child, that is child abuse!

Answer 5

Every mammal on the planet physically reprimands their young to teach them. Parents who don't believe in spanking are raising potential monsters who don't respect any authority, but it sounds like the person you saw went way overboard from discipline to abuse. Just look at a classroom full of kids 40 years ago (well behaved, quiet, respectful) versus one today (loud, rude, kids talking back to teacher, swearing, throwing things at each other, etc).

Answer 6

I was ignored, spanked and yelled at when I was younger, and now I have low self-esteem.

It just builds from the bottom up, and when you're little, you think that you're a bad person if someone else scolds you even for something little. Or even if you don't deserve it, you believe you do.

It grows out of hand, and then you become draw back from things that you could really enjoy, and miss out on, because you're afraid of making a mistake.

HITTING kids is not the answer to well-behaved kids. People who point out that today's kids are not well-disciplined are wrong because they fail to look at the whole story.

If you support kids, and love them, but make sure they know their boundaries, then your kids will turn out fine.

The reason why many kids don't behave is because the parents try to be their child's best friend, not a parent. They don't set limitations for their kids, and don't know how to say no.

Then the kids think it's okay to do whatever they want.

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Hitting your kids is never the answer, it just leads to the child having negative self-feelings, which could be potentially harmful.

Abused kids, even if only a little, are more likely to act awkward around other kids, causing them to get bullied more often.

Answer 7

I have seen the same thing, and it's sad that you can't say anything, some parents take it way too far, and it's all done out of anger. That parent in Africa was way out of line, and it's a shame he wasn't arrested.

Answer 8

after my mom died when i was 2, my dad got violent towards me. He would hit me for the slightest thing. We lived in England at the time, where this is much more common-place that here in the US. And so I behaved, because I was afraid of him.  It was really effective. I'm now 16 and can generally stand up to my dad, although I am still somewhat afraid of his temper. He's gotten so much better, but I do still resent him a little for taking out his feelings on me when I was younger. However, I do believe that it is an effective way of disciplining an unruly child. It should be used as punishment only though, never as a way of venting.

Answer 9

i ave a will continue to smack my sons hand or bum if he repeatidly dus somthin wrong like playin with cupboard doors or playin with the tv and after the tenth time u just give up, i dont like doin it but what else u ment to do?

i would never punch or kick him tho, how could any parent do that to their kid?

Answer 10

It is so unfortunate that you witnessed physical abuse. My heart goes out to those kids.

Hitting is never effective. It is so negative and disrespectful. Spanking, hitting, smacking is all the same. It is all violent and controlling. How can anyone feel that it is the right way to teach their kids? Do they feel better by saying hitting is okay when it is planned and when you are calmed down so you don't hit in anger? Yeah, right. Its' just laziness, and very uneducated.

Mostly they say they were spanked and they turned out fine. Well, I smoked 2 packs of cigarettes a day and I am fine, I don't have lung cancer so it's okay?

Answer 11

"so many parents"?  Where are you located?  There is no point at all hitting or abusing children.  i won't however claim I don't spank my child.  It does depend on the offense.  Typically we do time outs but I did spanked my daughter on the butt (one swat) when she took off and ran across a busy parking lot.  There is no excuse for punching and kicking.  I can't even fathom that.