Whats the rules for adoption , helpp !?

Question

Ok . So my Bestfriend ( Rachel )mom beats her BADLY . and im always around to see it .

She starts crying and everything but i dont know what to do .

I want to adopt her ,but she has brothers and sisters too that get beat & i dont wanna take all of them cause that would be to much .

One of her brothers has bad legs and her mom hits his legs so he starts crying .

Usually my Rachel goes in and helps her little brother .. But what if i adopt her and shes not around to stop her mother .

Its really hard to see her getting hit and punched and kicked .

I HATE IT ! & i love her to death and would do anything for her .. But her brothers and sisters are such sweethearts.

But my mom cant aford all of them

What do i dooo ?

PLEASE HELP ME !

&& what are the adoption fee's and what would me and my mom need to do before we can adopt her ?

Answer 1

I'm answering this question cause it's an important one. Also since i'm adopted I know that your mom will have to become a foster parent so that she can adopt, and also take care of the other kids til they get a home that is safe. Another thing is that you may not want to adopt your friend because adoption is really expencive , Also my honest opinion is you need to report that mom to the police cause who knows if maybe she ends up beating them to death.  

Answer 2

The process will take a while.  These kids need help NOW.  Call social services.  Your mom might qualify for a grant to help, as well as stipends which would help cover some expenses.  At the least, maybe the mom will get some supervision, and some direction so the beatings will quit.  The next time it happens, call 9-1-1, no matter what your friend says, or call the child abuse hotline in your area.  They're usually listed in the phone book.  Good luck

Answer 3

You need to call social services to get all the kids out of that place. I know it will break there heart at first, but it will be so much better on them.

Answer 4

The first thing you need to do is call the police and social services on this woman. These children need help before one of them is seriously hurt. Next you just can't adopt someone because you want to they have to be available for adoption. If your mom is interested in having them she can apply for foster care and see if they can be placed with her.

Answer 5

If these children are being abused, you need to notify an adult who can help right away.  Don't wait any longer.  Tell a trusted teacher, counselor, minister or the police.  

Your mother can't simply adopt your friend.  There are steps that need to be take to get these children to a safe place.  This is why the authorities need to be contacted about this.

Answer 6

Your mom would have to have a completed adoption home study before a child could be placed in her care, home study fees are expensive,$1000 at minimum, how high it goes from there depends on how many post-placement visits your state requires.  Once your mom becomes a licensed foster home she is obligated to report any abuse she knows about, so she would HAVE to report the abuse that your best friend AND her siblings are going through.  CPS would then open an investigation and remove the children, if they feel that they are in immediate danger.  If the children are removed, and your mom has an approved home study (which takes 3-9 months to complete) she can ask that your friend be placed with your family, but if she does not take the younger siblings, your friend needs to understand that her siblings will be going to then be sent to live with strangers without her.  They will be placed in one or two different foster homes and once siblings become separated, it is extremely hard to get them placed together again.  

You also need to keep in mind that even if CPS removes your friend and her siblings, the initial goal is always reunification, and a reunification plan will be made, which usually includes anger management classes, parenting classes, and other resources tailored to fit the needs of the situation so that the family can become stable, instead of being dysfunctional.  Only after the reunification plan fails will the goal be changed to adoption.  CPS is in place to help heal families, not tear them apart.

If the mother of your friend was willing to sign over her parental rights, your mom would still need an adoption home study, but would then be able to have an attorney file for adoption, eliminating the CPS aspect altogether, however few parents are willing to sign their parental rights away.  

If your mom is truly serious about adopting your friend, her best bet is to make an appointment with an adoption attorney to discuss the situation.  

Answer 7

You need ask an adult to call Child Protective Services (the number will be in your phone book with other local and state governmental services) immediately and report the abuse. It also might be a good idea to call the police.

Adoption isn't the way to handle this situation. All these children need to be removed from the home and taken someplace safe, and it needs to happen quickly. Adoption is slow, would require the consent of the biological parent unless her parental rights had already been terminated by the court, and in your mother's case only helps one child but leaves the others to be abused.

I also personally don't think it's right to separate your friend from her siblings, even if they do end up in foster care with the biological parents' rights terminated. An appropriate home for those children is one that will keep them together.

You need to call the authorities right away so your friend and her siblings can be protected from abuse NOW.