Question:

Whats up with sibling intimacy?

by  |  earlier

0 LIKES UnLike

I have decided to leave a relationship of five years after observing, what I consider, excessive intimacy between my partner and his half sister. She recently endured a very tragic life event, and as a result, my partner started spending quite a bit of time with her and the rest of their blended families, which is new behavior since he's been with me, but totally understandable. Anyway, tragedy striken sis began texting him "I love you" messages and then just recently came to our home for a first time visit.

She was dressed in skin tight pants and a tight tank (he had shared with me that she supposedly had a boob job, which was clearly confirmed at the time of her visit). I walked in the door and saw my partner standing over her with his hand on her mid thigh. He then slid has hand down her thigh and off her knee. Later they sat closely on the couch, talking quietly to one another. As she prepared to leave, he wrapped his arms around her and they snuggle hugged, like body enmeshment, as they walked toward her car.

Do I sound jealous? Yes, but even his other full sister who was visiting as well seemed nervous and finally had to ask him if he would hug her too.

The outpouring between these two threw me over the edge. My partner has never, in my memory, been so intimately affectionate with me.

I had met her once before when we first got together, and upon greeting each other, they did such a full body embrace, I later told him that I thought she was an ex and not his sis. Alas, they are blood related, which makes this even worse.

Since I am an only child, and know nothing about normal sibling relationships except for what I have observed in my friend's families and at the movies, what do you read from my story? Same thing, somthing differerent? Please share...and thanks.

 Tags:

   Report

9 ANSWERS


  1. well no sounds that there is something fishy... well this is his half sister..

    my real brother wont touch my mid thigh or only gives a formal hug when we meet after long... so their behavior is indeed fishy...


  2. Sadly, I'll have to agree with you.

    =/

  3. I don't even hug my family when I see them. Okay, my family is pretty much close knit except for maybe me - but my cousins never behave like this. I have full siblings, and we don't even bother to tell each other that we love them. Most of the time it's just 'I hate you" slurs. I think that you should have a woman to woman conversation with your partners half sibling to see how her life's going - see something suspicious and then consult your bf.  

  4. Half sister is still morally wrong and disgusting they still have the same blood from one parent I feel sorry for you because it sounds more than sister and brotherly love and your in a bad situation because you know she's not going anywhere seems she is in the family I would make your man stay away from her tell him what you suspect and if you find out they are leave him because that is sooo wrong and it's just going to make you look like a fool fooling around someone that would be attracted to his own sister.It's not that they're step their half same blood!!!Good luck and I hope your wrong about the situation but it don't sound lke your wrong.

  5. Thumbs down to all answers - this is CRAZY, and Im feeling a bit offensive. Heres why:

    I met my HALF bros/sis (5 of them) almost 2 years ago now. We are all VERY touchy/feely, when together. We will sit together, bump arms, hug. Its NOT b/c we are sexually attracted for petes sake-but rather we all equally desire fulfillment based on action...

    its human nature to want to be touched by those whom love you.

    Likewise, your mates touching of his sisters leg may have been his gentle way of saying goodbye to his sibling. Its not so uncommon for siblings to value each other MUCH more than their partner. A sibling will undoubtedly be there FOREVER, where as a partner may not.

    PS I also have 1 full brother, who I am and have always been just as lovey dovey with ;) Hes my BROHEAD

    My advice, if u cant handle his family values - take a hike.

  6. It sounds like something strange is going on, and I would have honestly done the exact same thing you did.

    I know it must be incredibly difficult..but there's just something wrong with that situation. Did you tell him about it? What did he say?

    Either way, I personally would just move on and let him have his sister if that's what he wishes! Good job on noticing it and acting on it!

  7. no clue how old you are all...my brother and i had a close relationship, before he died, im 36, some people thought that of us because we could talk about s*x together.  it doesnt seem right she comes that close though.  talk.. try to get a handle on it.  if they are truly "that close"..RUN RUN WHILE YOU CAN!  find someone else!

  8. What he is doing is illegal. That is not right at all. Tell your boyfriend that and that you are dumping him because you don't want to be with someone who wants to sleep with his sister.

  9. No, not normal at all.  I have only half-siblings and we do not behave that way.

Question Stats

Latest activity: earlier.
This question has 9 answers.

BECOME A GUIDE

Share your knowledge and help people by answering questions.