Whats up with teens these days?

Question

I am 17 years old and I think that the behavior of a lot of teens is horrible. I was looking on myspace today and a lot of people from my school have pictures of themselves drinking and partying. About seven people so far this year got pregnant in my school. Why is the only thing they care about partying and stuff like that. For me getting into college and getting a job is more important than that. Just today I was talking about college and my 18 year old sister who has a 4 month old told me to stop talking about college and that college isn't everything. Why do a lot of teens have this mind set? If you have any feelings on this subject please feel free to share.

Answer 1

becuase thats all the fun stuff ;)

Answer 2

You were brought up with strong values. Keep them, and some day after college and your career, instill the same salues in your won children. There should be no rush! College is a great start. you get in, and get going! Good for you! Your sister however, may be a little jealous to see you going down the proper path, and herself not having been able to do the same pr be so successful as I'm sure you'll be.

Answer 3

My parents tried really hard to keep me in school.

I dropped out my junior year which was this past January.

I do have a few goals that I'm going to get done in the next year.

I'm taking my GED test in a few weeks, and if I pass it I'm going to cosmetology school which is what I've wanted to do since I was 4 years old.

I've never really been a bad kid. I do party occasionally, but I don't do drugs, I don't do stupid things, or sleep around. I'm in a very committed relationship, I have a job and I work my *** off.

I just couldn't handle high school anymore, there was too much drama, too much stress, and I also moved to a different state and that ruined my credits.

Answer 4

some people head the wrong way in life and they don't realize that the decision they are making can effect their success in life(job, college) i think it's good that you aren't like that and that you know what is right in life!

that's my opinion!

i'm 13 now and i can't wait to be a pediatrician one day because i love babies(just thought u might want to know that? lol)

Answer 5

Well aren't you just little miss perfect lol. I suppose your mind set is perfect!?

PS the thumbs down are great. I just thought there would be better ways of fishing for compliments than being so judgemental of your peers. I'm glad that your priorities are in order but you need to respect the fact that not everyones priorities are the same no matter what age.

Answer 6

Your parents trained you well in the right way.  Others are not so lucky.

Answer 7

I agree with your sister that college isn't everything.  I believe too much emphasis is put on that, at least at my school.  Its like , if you aren't planning on going to a college you are considered some sort of freak

But a lot of kids do party and drink way too much as well.  People aren't taught how to be responsible

I'm 16.  I have a part time job.   But for this next year, my senior year, I'm really looking forward to my elective classes, being a yearbook editor, and my theatre club office, and my active theatre involvement.  I don't drink, smoke, have s*x, or really even go to parties. I have a boyfriend of a year and a half who I love superlots

I'm focusing right now on just taking advantage of my last year of high school, and enjoying myself.  I'm a kid for a year and a month, and I can be a responsible one, but I'm not gunna try to grow up too fast :))

Answer 8

Well if u want a horrible life do it . I have a friend who drinks i don't i am heather so do what i did.....

Answer 9

You'll find that when you get to college there will be more people with a similar mindset (I'm 18). Young People in America specifically have no drive or ambition. Keep believeing what you do and raise your children the same way. Lots of times children just don't have any role models in your life. If you are truly passionate about this become a mentor in your town or volunteer to work with younger kids and make a difference while they're still impressionable.

Answer 10

i dont knoe maybe because they have no ambitions or no deive to do anything...

kinda lazy or they have no hope...

Answer 11

i agree with you, we're having issues with my 14 yr.b old sister she for some reason thinks she is grown! With your sister she has a young baby & she is a mommy now & in her life her baby is probably whats most important to her, & if thats the case then thats a good thing bc she's taking care of the baby. I don't know the situation with your sister but i have 3 sisters of my own & it's good that college is so important to you but maybe try to be a little more aware of your sisters feelings. You'll come to realize that even though ya'll have differant opinions & differant lives that she could be yor bestfriend. My sisters are mine. I was 17 & engaged, got married at 18, then got preggo 4 months later & now im 24 & have another baby. I love my husband & my kids so much. At a young age for me family was more important. Everyone differs. As for the teens acting out like they don'y have any sense its ridiculous, but why let it bother you so much. Don't let how othres are change you & its great you think school & work is important. Keep doing what your doing

Answer 12

Wish all teens could think like you! I'm not sure what they are thinking, perhaps, that's just it.... they aren't thinking at all.

Either way, good luck to you.

Answer 13

THERE ARE SOME LEVEL HEADED TEENS AND THOSE THAT DO DUMB STUFF BECAUSE THEY THINK THEY ARE INVINCIBLE.

COLLEGE ISN'T EVERYTHING AND STOP TALKING ABOUT IT. WHAT DOES SHE MEAN??????????

Answer 14

Oh my gosh i thought they were none of you left. It's so good to hear u thinking so positively. Ur sis is probally realizing she made a huge mistake having s*x ending up pregnant and so feels jealous that u talk abt college all the time feeling that she missed her chance. MAybe u shouln't talk abt it that much around her but i'm sure ur parents are proud of u.

I too look at all that's happenin with this generation and wondering where have morals and values gone are we no longer thinking about being respectable individuals who can be role models some day?

Drinkin smokin partyin and losing ur virginity before marriage it's all wrong thses kids are out of controll and many parents are unaware while some seem to don't care.

But u keep thinkin abt college and u'll be fine do what's rite and leave what's wrong.

Wow if more kids could be like u.

Candice M so sorry i was gonna give u thumbs up but accidenly clicked thumbs down so so sorry i really understand what ur saying i see that at my University.

Answer 15

I have no idea to tell you the truth. I am exactly the same. I take advanced classes so I can get into a good college. But my friends party every weekend and slack off in schol. My sister was the same way when she was in High School. She regrets everything she did in high school now while she trys to get into nursing school, she's been on the waiting list for 4 years all because of what she did in high school.

Answer 16

i think that most of those teens have issues i dont drink and i am not having a baby and i dont party but i still have lotz of friends and i now how to have a good time i feel for u cuz i really do feel the same way i am 18 but i am still young i know better and i think that if any one has a problem with that then they can go get drunk and lose lotz of sleep and get puked on by a baby haha

Answer 17

I agree with you 100%

I'm 15 and a lot of people at my school care about partying, drinking, and drugs. I just don't see a point in any of it. I have the same mindset as you. I care a lot about my grades and getting into college.

Answer 18

you are right these teens nowadays are behaving badly,some of them think  that college is for drinking and partying,if college was made for that people you would,nt have any doctoers or lawyers you would just have one bag of poppy shows.excuse my jamaican dialect.look college is a big deal yes,because you have to have brains,you just have to be really focus on your studies.college is not for peole who are dunce.so yes its a big deal,teens nowadays just make it looks as if college isn,t a place to further your education but a place for a bunch of wild animals.

Answer 19

Not everyone has goals to be successful in life. I'm glad your not thinking about that stuff and your trying to get an education!

Answer 20

Because alcohol is fun and we're young so why not have some fun? College is still a priority and I still get good grades even though I drink occasional and so do my friends, so it's not like I'm throwing away my future.

And you're lucky your school only has 7 pregnancies, the average is much higher. My school has 30.

Answer 21

i understand what you are saying i too care a lot about getting into college and getting a job (im 17 too) and i don't understand why other teens don't care more about their future and are more interested in ruining it. but you also need to care about partying and just having fun but keeping a straight mind ofcourse. not everything right now is school, probably a great part is school but not all

Answer 22

Because too many parents let their teens run wild and do what they want. They give them too much freedom. I do not get that at all. When you give a teenager an inch they will stretch that into a mile....People need to stop letting them do as they wish.

I can tell you now that when my son gets to be that age he will not get to do what he wants, he will not get to go out like all these kids do nowadays.

I was not allowed to go anywheres until i was like 17 years old but i was taught well and did not end up pregnant like everyone else.

I am so happy that my mom was strict with me which i was quiet and did not really want to go out, drink or party.

To this day i have not drunk and i am 28 years old.

Also when all these young girls get pregnant their parents makes it too easy on her when they let her remain living under their roof in keeping them fed, clothed and so on plus doing the same for their grandkid..They just make it too easy on them, they know "if i get pregnant" mommy will help me.

I am not going to be like that at all. I have one child, had one child and there is no way i am going to raise one that is not mine. It was no one else's place to raise mine so you see what i mean?

Stay away from drinking, drugs and if you have s*x make sure you use birth control each time, finish your schooling and you will be fine....You do all it all right and you will be setting back laughing at their pathetic lives when you get out of college and get a great job.

They are living for the moment, you are looking at the big picture which is a good thing.

Good luck and keep up the good work.

Answer 23

It just tears my heart out when I hear about teens getting pregnant when they can't even drive!

Answer 24

dont worry i live in a super small town population of 4,500 and there is 47 girls in high school that are pregnant and 5 in the jr high

its sad

but i agree with you =]

Answer 25

I think  you have a great head on your shoulders and DO NOT let anyone tell you different! If you want to go to college then you go to college! Don't let people tell you that partying is everything because trust me ITS NOT! Its rather boring I think. I got pregnant at 17 but that is because I chose to have a baby with my husband(then he was my b/f) and we were together almost 2 yrs and for some reason I just knew he was the one for me...we are now married and have been together almost 7 yrs... I'm 21 and we have 2 daughters and another baby onthe way..and I mean although I would have liked to finish college without worrying about who is watching my kids and what are they doing right now.(in other words be able to be totally focused on school work rather than torn between school work and my kids) I still love the path I chose. I was never much of a partier seeing as everyone just acted so stupid at parties...like it was never enough for them so they had to take it up a notch and act even more idiotic.

I'm just saying teens think doing drugs and drinkin and gettin pregnant is the biggest fad in the world now so they all do it.Its like a Monkey See Monkey Do cause and effect situation..."well Sarah got pregnant/drank/smoked pot/etc... so why can't I"  thats all it is anymore...who can outdo who and who is cool enough to do the same thing as the other person.

I think its ridiculous and those "cool" teens are probably not feeling so cool now that they are in AA meetings or Drug rehab centers or a single teen parent(mom or dad)....to each their own stupidity level!

But good for you,I hope you achieve all that you want to do!