Whats up with this.. ?

Question

this guy who's 21 (im turning 18) has already told my sister he thinks im absolutely gorgeous and would date me. (he wants to meet a good christian girl to get married and have kids with).. but when we go out (with people not just me and him) like any guy would.. he will comment on other girls.. like oh she is hot (when some girl who looks like a model is walking down the street).. this does not make me feel better about myself.. wouldn't he see that girl and then look back at me and be like "ugh.." because i dont look anything close to her.. what do guys do when they like someone but comment on model looking girls in front of you?

Answer 1

If you believe that at 21 and single, he will only have eyes for you, then you might be mistaken.  He is not dead.

If you are interested in him, then you need to spend time away from the rest of the social group (out of ear-shot) in order to talk.  This is the only way that you will ever begin to understand what might be going on in that specific male brain.

He is probably not aware that his comments might hurt your feelings.  If he does then he is socially inept.  At least his activities are open and he is hiding nothing from you.  Too many guys would say nothing while drooling over the same event.

You might be taking all of this too personally.  Next time he does this, look.  It might not be her physical appearance, but the way she walks or carries herself that attracts his interest.  It might even be the way she dresses or her fashion accessories.  If you do not look you might never know.

If you do not see anything special, you might ask him "What is so hot about her?"  If you never talk to him about this, you will continue to be in the dark.

There is one other possibility and that he is just a jerk.  This will become very apparent if you talk with him about matters that effect you.