Whats wrong with a woman asking to marry a man? I don't see a problem!?

Question

Especially if that man is good to her. I'm dating a man that is loving caring and all that, I believe he is scared of marriage even though he's never been married before. I'm not a really aggressive person but I can't see myself waiting on him to ask me, when it's already been established that neither one of us wants to leave each other side. We vacation together with each of our small children...we do family reunions...we still go out and have a great time and he truly loves me. He can be shy when it comes to this love thing, like a teddy bear, but it's been 4 1/2 straight years and we're still going strong.

8 out of 10 people have been so negative on here and I just which people would take charge of their lives like I want to. I'm not taking anything away from him being a man....I love the man that he is and I respect and adore my KING. He is good to me and would never even allow me or anyone to run over him so I'm not hearing he's not a real man or I'm not allowing him to be a real man!

Answer 1

Don't stop reading. I don't believe in a woman asking a man to marry her. HOWEVER, you have some good points and in your situation, I might consider dropping some rather large hints. You can always ask him what he sees in the future for the two of you. Ask him if he is serious about the two of you because if he's not, you feel like you need to let him go.

If THAT doesn't get him moving, then nothing will. He might pop the question and tell you he wants to spend the rest of his life with you. If he refuses to talk about it, then just blurt out that you would like to know if he ever sees marriage in your future. If he says that he does, then ask him what time frame he's thinking about. You'll know from there.

Yes, it's "pushing" but looks like you deserve to push this one.  ;-)   Best wishes~

Answer 2

There's nothing wrong with a woman asking a man if that's what they both want, but what if he IS scared of marriage, isn't ready for it or whatever? What if he says no? I think you need to be sure where each of you stand on the marriage issue before you ask him.  The same goes for a guy asking a girl, really.  I'm sure either way it would be traumatizing to ask someone to marry you and have them say no.  

Answer 3

There really is nothing wrong, but usually a mature man would realize after about two years of dating that it is time to marry. I wouldn't have waited as long as you...

I'm glad you have found someone you are so happy with - but he's obviously happy with things as they are.

Answer 4

He is a real man sweetie it is just he could just be scared like you said earlier, I think with you asking him would make him feel a ton better about everything in your relationship and then feel better knowing you want the same things he does and want to have a wonderful wedding with you and marry his Queen =)

Answer 5

no problem at all.I'd do it.

Answer 6

I think society has placed a rule that says the man asks the women to enter marriage. It's just one of those things the man initiates and women have been taught since they were little girls to expect it. It's no different than the women giving the green light to talk to her, or the okay for the first kiss, or whatever.

Answer 7

There is no problem at all!

I promise!

my grandma proposed to my grandpa.

When they were 16 and got married at 17.

I have seen alot of women propose to men.

No problem at all.

Go for it.

I support it.

Answer 8

Look, I can cut and paste!

Then why are you on here asking? You should go buy him a little band and pop the question already!

Good luck!

2 more points.

Answer 9

There is nothing wrong with it...as long as he says yes. So, as long as you understand he may say no, then go for it!

Answer 10

If he wanted to marry you he'd ask. It's that simple. You can make all the excuses you need to if you want to justify why he hasn't asked (he's shy? he's scared?) but the bottom line is: he doesn't love you enough to marry you. Isn't that really why women ask men? Because they know their man doesn't love them enough so they need "confirmation"- they beg him to marry her. Aren't you tired of being disrespected like this?

Sorry if this is harsh but you asked the question and that's my opinion.