Whats wrong with a woman asking to marry a man?

Question

Especially if that man is good to her. I'm dating a man that is loving caring and all that, I believe he is scared of marriage even though he's never been married before. I'm not a really aggressive person but I can't see myself waiting on him to ask me, when it's already been established that neither one of us wants to leave each other side. We vacation together with each of our small children...we do family reunions...we still go out and have a great time and he truly loves me. He can be shy when it comes to this love thing, like a teddy bear, but it's been 4 1/2 straight years and we're still going strong.

8 out of 10 people have been so negative on here and I just which people would take charge of their lives like I want to. I'm not taking anything away from him being a man....I love the man that he is and I respect and adore my KING. He is good to me and would never even allow me or anyone to run over him so I'm not hearing he's not a real man or I'm not allowing him to be a real man!

Answer 1

Personally, i dont believe there's anything wrong with the lady asking the man for his hand in marriage, just because it's not in tradition doesn't mean it can't or hasn't be done. The thing is, if he hasn't asked you yet it's probably because he's not ready to get married and he might not want to... that's reasonable considering he's been married before and might be a little afraid, maybe all he needs is for you to show him that you mean buisness and want to get married. Good luck!!!!=]

Answer 2

you can say to him, i would like a proposal by next month from YOU because i love you and want to go forward with our life together and it would mean the world to me, in those exact words, but ask him to marry you?  no.  

every single male in the whole world knows it is his job to propose.  you are missing the point here.  maybe it is not people here who are negative, maybe it is you who are desperately afraid that he is just stringing you along.  

so tell him the above and see what he says,  he will either consider it and do it or he will waffle, then you have your answer without humiliating yourself or emasculating him.  

Answer 3

Oh sweetie that is great that you have found someone like that! You know I think that a woman asking a man is so unique and really is cool. More power to ya. I would defiantly do it if I were you. You both love one another that is obvious to me from what you have described so far, that is great you both love kids! I would certainly think about asking him I think he would be very touched! From the sounds of it he is unsure that he has the motivation or guts to do so. He could just be afraid of rejection, like I said thought asking him if he isn't going to do so would be very cool! I just think that if he hasn't asked you by now that he is really scared to ask and you asking might take that pressure and stress away from him. This way you both can make lives as a couple and make a complete family.

One thing you could do is reverse the rolls all together to make things fun with this. You could do what he would do if you are traditional, you could ask his mother or his father your choice. Then after that get him the ring and ask him. You could really have fun with this! Totally go for it!

Good luck to you! I hope all goes well

Answer 4

Just because it isn't "normal" according to standards of engagement, so what?? I say go for it! Shoot, if you want to get down on one knee--go for it, baby! Seriously..  I think you've thought this through enough that you know what you want; and that doesn't mean you're pushy or he's not a man or anything of the sort! If you're truly in love, there's no way it won't turn out positive!

Good luck!!!

Answer 5

I think people think its weird like ur desperate or something because its usually the man that does it..its embaressing for the guy becuase ppl would noe that the woman wears the "pants" in the family u noe

if he doesnt ask u to marry him in a while just bring it up maybe he is affriad of commitmant?

Answer 6

We are in the 2000's, would you ask a guy to dance?  Probably yes, then ask him to dance with your forever.  Just do it.

Answer 7

There is nothing wrong with it!!! And this year is a leap year, so traditionally, that is when the women do the asking. Some guys are just SO frightened (even when they appear totally settled and happy) that the woman will say no, they never get round to it. If you want to marry him, ask him! :) Good luck!  

Answer 8

Believe me, if he wanted to marry you, he would ask. He doesn't, unfortunately. He has all he wants from you without having to make that one final commitment. You can ask him if you want, but be prepared to either get no answer, a "no" answer or to have him say yes and then find reasons to keep delaying it. He isn't afaid of marriage, he is simply waiting to find the woman he wants to marry. When he does, you can bet he'll do the asking.

I'm not trying to be mean or negative, it's just how I see it.

Answer 9

Then why are you on here asking? You should go buy him a little band and pop the question already!

Good luck!

Answer 10

There isn't anything wrong with it. Do what feels right to you and ignore the naysayers.