Whats wrong with being SINGLE?

Question

This is based on my last question in which I stated that its ok to dump a woman for getting fat because if I wanted a fat woman I would of looked for one in the beginning.

I got an overwelming response from people telling me "You will be single for a long time!!!"

1. What is wrong with being single?

2. Why is it ok for a woman to change after marriage or dating but not for a man?

I just want my question answered.

Answer 1

Nothing is wrong with being single. I'd rather be single than settle for someone I don't really want.

And, I think it's reasonable to expect that anyone is going to change after you've been with them awhile. People do that. Nobody stays exactly the same forever. However, some changes are more acceptable than others. Physical change is almost impossible to avoid, especially post-30. This makes looks a really stupid thing to base a serious, long-term relationship on. If the person you're with triples his or her weight, I can see how a lot of people might not be able to deal with that. But to leave over an extra 10, 20, even 30 pounds is just silly. (Assuming you are in a serious relationship and not just a teenaged fling. If you just want s*x then dating people for their looks is the way to go.)

Behavioral changes or changes to a person's character are, in my opinion, less acceptable. I fall in love with people because of who they are. I think a lot of other people do the same. If your personality or behavior changes to the point that you're no longer a good person, then yes, I do think that's a valid reason to leave. It doesn't just affect my s*x drive, it affects my entire life with you. Again, this is assuming we're talking about a serious, long-term relationship and not just a fling. I suppose being lazy or a jerk matters less if you're only seeing the person once a week for s*x. But if you're married, you HAVE to be able to stand living with each other.

Answer 2

To the feminist, being a single female equals being strong. I have never figured that one out.

Answer 3

Theres nothing wrong with being single if you want to be alone.

Answer 4

Nothing, go for it and be joyous.

But you know, my husband changed after marraige, he has a big beer belly now, hair on his back, he's greying and he's shown a side of his personality now that can be bad-tempered and nit-picking.  But I still love him anyway.  

People grow and change, sometimes for the worse, but alot of the time the person has other things that are working in their favour- they can become closer, more empathetic, better lovers and there is comfort in a relationship that has matured. :)

Answer 5

1. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being single. I know several people of both sexes, heterosexual persuasion, who chose not to form permanent attachments to people, and they are healthy, happy people.

2. Narcissistic Perceptions. People generally expect to be treated better than they are willing to treat other people.

Answer 6

Nothing, as long as you're single for the right reasons. Not finding a woman who's skinny enough for you isn't one of them.

Answer 7

Nothing wrong with it.

Stay single as long as you want. Men have much more to lose from marriage than women. And women have become so liberated that s*x is not a valid reason for marriage.

One day you might find someone you like not only for s*x, but for other things. And you don't see your life without her, if that time comes you will know.

Answer 8

I see the point in your previous and current questions.

1. Nothing wrong in being single. In fact, I had so much fun being single that I used to think that I wanted to be single forever. One could go on talking about the advantages/disadvantages of being single or being in a marriage-turned-nightmare. Ultimately it boils down to what we want - its our choice to make.

2. It is ok and understandable to change after marriage - be it men or women. The only thing that is permanent is change.

Answer 9

There is nothing wrong with being single, if that's what you want. And time changes, so does people. Men and women. Your not going to look the same forever, you ll get old, that's life.

Answer 10

Nothing is wrong with being single.

Answer 11

Alright, ANYONE who is married or who is looking to be married MUST accept that BOTH genders change in some way after marriage.  

To think otherwise is stupid, naive, and heading straight for a divorce.

As for being single, single can be fun for a while.  There are many things one can do single that one can not do in a relationship.  Despite how fun single life can be, though, it eventually gets old (imo).

Answer 12

Nothing wrong with being single. However you seem to be so shallow, I hope you are also celibate.

Everyone changes after marriage. The physical changes are the least of the problems - if you don't count the illnesses. If you believe it is otherwise, you believe too much of what you see on TV.

Answer 13

**** that people they are just  not to cool for you. You need to stop hanging out with them and their is nothing wrong with been singel is the best thing to be!!!!! because you get to be pimpn you know wat i mean!!!??

Answer 14

1. Nothing

2. How many men have YOU dated that remained the same after getting comfortable?

I dated one that didn't smoke pot, drink, hated partying, and was truthful, until we started saying "I love you" that is.

It's not ok for a woman to change, and its not ok for a man.

Based what fereshte said-  I'm talking about 180's here.

Answer 15

being single is totally fine! i wish i was! people are so judgemental on this web site, don't you think? so what if you broke up with her because she got fat? is that any worse than breaking up with her for another reason? either way it sucks! and the reason it is "OK" for a woman to change after marriage, is because we are the boss in most cases. we only act sweet and horny to catch you and make you marry us. once we're settled in and comfy, the real us comes out! sorry!

Answer 16

Nothing at all. In fact I think you being single would be a very good thing.

Answer 17

There is nothing wrong with being single,if you're happy then go for it.It is okay for a man to change after marriage to become fat beer belly,couch potatoe,sleazy,lazy, cheater, after all he is just a fragile ego human being...... It is just fair to divorce him,no woman would want to have a baggage like that,if you can dumped a woman who become fat,, t*t for tat,women can dump men that are losers because their future  and happines is at stake.

Answer 18

Nothing! and kimber91 has just put me off ever getting married.

Answer 19

1. not a darn thing.

2. from what i have observed everyone changes to some degree...even men. neither is ok really. but it does happen.

basically no one wants the person theydate knowing how they realy are.

if they did...there probably wouldnt be much dating..

i mean...im sure my sister would not have dated the father of her unborn baby had she known he was a woman beater....

she did leave him soon after...she wasnt raised to put up with stuff like that.

Answer 20

First of all there is nothing wrong with being single; when it was my turn to be single I rather enjoyed it.

No, it is not okay for us to change after marriage.  That's a double standard is it not: meaning if I want you to keep in shape I'd better practice what I preach.