Whats wrong with being a virgin at age 17?

Question

all of my friends make fun of me for it and its so annoying. i just dont want to have s*x right now! i havent met anyone special enough to do it with and a lot of my friends lost their virginity when they were like 14. what do you think?

Answer 1

Most women can't really enjoy s*x unless its with someone they REALLY like/love.So you're taking the right route! Otherwise you'd just be doing it to please the guy!

Answer 2

You should be proud that you have been able to remain a virgin in the face of so much peer pressure. Many girls and grown women look back and wish they would have waited longer to lose their virginity for a multitude of reasons. I would venture that a couple of your friends are jealous because, deep down, they wish they had waited themselves.  If your friends are talking openly about your virginity, there's no doubt they would talk openly about your sexual partners at school. Your reputation would be down the toilet then. Tell your so called friends that it is your choice and to drop it. It is none of their business whether you are a virgin or not and if they are real friends, they'll respect your decision. If not, they aren't real friends.

Friends should like and respect you for who you are as a person.

Answer 3

Hi. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being a virgin at age 17. You are right to wait until you are ready and meet someone really special. I know many well adjusted, attractive, great people who lost their virginity as late as 28!  There is no right age to lose your virginity. You will know when the time is right for you. A lot of people don't have great experiences the first time. Maybe your friends are even jealous that you're waiting till you're ready. Just take your time and try not to take the teasing to heart. It will happen when the time is right. You definitely have the right idea here.  

Answer 4

Nothing, I think it's great.  Your friends are jealous and immature.

Answer 5

There is nothing wrong with being a virgin even til you're married, and you could be 30 when you meet the right guy so who cares what others did. It's yours to keep til you're ready to give it away so good on you :P

Answer 6

It IS so overrated...

I was a virgin till I was 19, and that creep was definitely not worth it (What was I thinking?)

I didn't get an "O" till my 21st birthday, with my then boyfriend of 1 year (not the first creep)

Still, the orgasms did not happen all the time (elusive creatures)

Trust me, you are not missing out on much, and you are right to want to wait till you think it's right...

If your friends can't understand that it is your personal choice to wait, for whatever reason you chose, then they aren't much "friends" from this point of view...

Trust me, I did it just to get it over with, and it was so awkward and rushed that It didn't feel good at all... Plus afterwards I felt the need to be held and comforted, but still did not feel right sharing that moment with the guy that had "taken" my virginity. Right guy? Most certainly not!

Just wait till you feel it's right... otherwise, it won't be worth it...  

Answer 7

The time is not right until the time is right for you - take your time.

Your friends SAY they lost their virginity when they were 14 - perhaps they did...

Answer 8

NOTHING IS WRONG! You wait as long as you want, because I had s*x at 16 with a guy that now I really regret having s*x with...he was a barsteward...  

Answer 9

Congratulations! You are one of the chosen few who let their heads rule over their curiosity and lust. You are better off than the lot of them. You're a rare gem.

Answer 10

dont care what they say n follow ur own way.

its not necessary for u to lose ur virginity at this age.

Answer 11

your friends will make fun of you (in your case)

this is a social dominance thing:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Social_Domi...

have fun!

to counter this argument of ad hominem http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Personal_at...

you simply have to (as you say ) realize that the logic

virgin + 17 = Blah

is wrong and you can either deffend this point from attack or just wait it out its up to you.

there logic is that the popular oppinion is the right one because it is Argumentum ad populum

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Argumentum_...

it says on that page good counter attacks

Answer 12

Cathrine

the normal and moral way for a woman to be virgin until married, what other girls talk is wrong, if you decide to keep it to your husband who should be virgin too that shall be perfect

I know that most of the guys here shall consider my answer as old but that is the way

Answer 13

abosolutely nothing! you respect yourself and follow your family's morals and values....

Answer 14

I think good on you and keep it until you are ready,I'm glad to see there are still girls out there who don't do like everyone else,keep up the individuality and forget the rest, their are probably wishing they had done the same

Answer 15

There is nothing wrong with it. Don't listen to your friends. Virginity never comes twice, don't loose it this fast.  

Answer 16

Nothing! Even if you don't wait until marriage, you should wait until you find the right guy and are ready, not because other kids tell you that you should. And I think it's a little weird that at one time,(like before the late 60's) any girl who was NOT a virgin would be an outcast and now it is just the opposite. Peer pressure is tough, but it should be up to you.

Answer 17

nothing its just so overrated when you finally do have it you'll be like i waited all this time just for this?? haha

Answer 18

I was a virgin until I was 19. I didn't even really date. Guys were of no interest to me. I met this one guy and all of a sudden everything was right. I was happy all the time, we always had fun together. I would never talk on the phone much and we had conversations lasting for hours. We are now talking about marriage and our futures once we get out of college. It feels like he was the only one for me, and that was what I based my decision on.

If you meet someone and it feels right, go for it. But if you aren't comfortable than it isn't worth it. Wait for love, not just hormones.

Answer 19

not a thing. it's nice to see that someone has respect for their self, and not to mention the STD's you will be missing and unwanted pregnancy, I  hope you wait until you get married, and maybe you should find new friends, if they are truly your friends they would not make fun of you...and it could be that they are jealous of you...

Answer 20

There's absolutely NOTHING wrong with being a virgin, no matter what your age!!

You need to find the right person, and you'll know when you do.

I waited a long time, was nearly 20. OK the first time was a bit nerve wracking, and it will be, no matter when it is, but after that, because you've waited for the right person it'll be GREAT, instead of just something that you'll look back on as a mistake!!

s*x should be with someone you trust, care about and respect. And someone who feels the same about you. Maybe you'd expect me to say 'love', but love and lust get mixed up, the other three don't!!

You've done well to stand up to your friends, one day they might look back and wish they did the same?

Take Care Darling,

C x*x

Answer 21

Nothing is wrong with u .. but maybe with ur friends :P

Don't change ur mind u're doing the right thing and u should be proud of urself... don't allow peer pressure to get to you... you may please ur friends but at the expense of u losing ur self respect and happiness...btw I'm 19 years old so don't think I'm old fashioned or whatever...

when ur ready u'll know and it will feel right don't force ur self to do something ur not convinced with and may regret, just to please ur friends...

Good luck :)

Answer 22

nothing. To loose it at 14 is illegal

Answer 23

Im 17 too and im a virgin. My friedns don't make fun of me. I think you need new friends. I know alot of people who are older than us and are virgins too. Lots of lads find it s**y and they respect you more. Ignore you friends they are justy slags!!!! x.x.x.x.x.x mwah

Answer 24

Just a suggestion but perhaps it is time to lose those friends, and find new ones who are more supportive of your life choices.  Sorry but there is nothing wrong with being a virgin at 17!  It is a personal choice and you have the right to say what happens with your body and when.  Don't ever let anyone pressure you into something you don't feel right doing because you will totally regret it.  When you meet that special person trust me you will know it...and you will be glad that you waited.  Good luck!