Whats wrong with calling up your 24 year old son to warn him about a bad storm coming?

Question

I know he never pays any attention to the weather. When he was a teenager he would go running right before a huge storm came. One time he was still out running and the tornado sirens went off. When ever he was at home he would get into arguments with my husband and I everytime the tornado siren went off about going down into the basement. So when he got a job and moved away we are worried about him and I was watching a weather channel and saw they were having tornado weather so I called his work but he wasnt there so I left a message to the secatary to tell him to watch out for the storm.

Then that night he calls us all pissed off saying he was the laughing stock of the whole office. Then hes like I'm 24 years old and if I want to be stupid and run outside next to a tornado then Im gonna do it so stop calling me every time a little storm comes.

Now I ask you am I a horrible person for caring about my son? Is there anything wrong with calling to warn him about a storm?

Answer 1

YOU NEED TO CUT THE APRON STRINGS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

He's 24 and can do what ever he wants.

GET A LIFE!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 2

I would totally do the same thing...maybe next time ask for his Voicemail tho :)

Answer 3

I see you are a very concerned parent, but look at it this way: If you always tell him when bad weather is approaching, he will never learn to check for himself.  Since you really do care for your son, and checking weather forecast has been a problem for him since he was young, you should ask him to put a website showing the weather update as his home page on his computer either at work or home.  That way he is sure to see the weather!  If you explain to him how important this is to you, he may do it.  You are not a horrible person, I actually think it's quite amusing.  I'd say the only thing wrong with calling him to warm him about a storm is that he will rely on you and when you are unable tell him about the forecasted bad weather, he will not know to check for it.  Good Luck!

Answer 4

Isee nothing wrong with it I just might have not left the message my mother in law calls every storm every time she hears about a car wreck just to make sure we are ok I think it just shows she cares

Answer 5

i don't think there is anything wrong with calling to warn him but it probably embarrassed him that you left a message at his work about it! it made him look like a mama's boy. and even when boys really are mama's boys (my husband is one) they will never admit it to anyone!

if my mom were to call me and tell me that at work i wouldn't care so much, but i am also a girl so it wouldn't make such a difference. boys/men value their masculinity so much and it probably made him feel like a little boy in front of his co-workers.

don't feel bad about it though, you will always be his mom and you will always want to protect him. just don't leave messages for him at his work unless it is just to call you back!

Answer 6

The saddest part to the whole story is that you know you've done something wrong and you won't even admit it !!!!!  That really makes you a horrible human being, let alone a parent.

Yes, it is not the norm to leave such a message so that his whole office would laugh about it.  You should go apologize to your son that it was totally inconsiderate and stupid of you to leave such a message, and you won't do it again.  He will forgive you for making such a mistake, but he won't forgive you for blaming him, not even on your deathbed.

Answer 7

No, you're not. I think he overreacted and is just embarassed because probably his friends at work tease him now. But maybe he's right, I mean he's twenty-four. You did what my mother would do!

Try calling him back and appologize for being a little protective, and he'll appreciate it. I really think he was wrong for being so mean to you because all you were trying to do was protect him but the point is, he doesn't see it that way. He doesn't want it and that's that. Even if you're right logically and he's wrong logically, in the parenting area, you were a little overprotective. That is what he thinks. He wants to be on his own now so I think you should call him and tell him that you will give him some more space.

About the office, I think he needs to toughen up a little right? His friends are making fun of him, so what? Big deal. He should laugh it off I guess or tell them that he has a mother who cares for him. I don't know if you should tell him that but if you feel that he won't be angry with the advice, go ahead an tell him.

I don't think you did anything wrong. You're a mother bear worrying about her cub :)

But I think you need to let him go a little.

Call him and tell him that and he will be very grateful, and I think he will appologize back for overreacting. Good luck. :)

Answer 8

I do not think you are a horrible person just a concerned parent... however leaving the message was probably not the best of ideas, i understand your concerns about your son but I'm thinking if i were one of your son's co-workers i would probably tease him too... next time i would advise either trusting that your son will have heard about the danger from the news or a co-worker or just leave a message from him to call home without giving a specific reason

Answer 9

calling him at work is a whole lot diffrent then calling at home u shouldnt have done that

Answer 10

This is so funny and cute it remind me of Everybody Loves Raymond. Theres nothing wrong with what you did, you are a caring mother. But, its still funny!

Answer 11

You definitely care about your son, and are not a horrible person.  

Your son just felt ridiculed at receiving this message from a co-worker he is trying to impress as a young man.  

He will probably check the weather from now on after that incident in front of his peers.

Answer 12

Warning him about the storm probaly bothers him but the fact that you left a message with someone else probably bothers him even more. It makes him look like a child and was probably very embarassing for him. If you left him a voicemail on his personal phone this may not be a big issue. Kids rebel when they are being controlled and it may be time to let it all go. Don't warn him about the weather. He's no longer a child and he needs to be responsible for himself. If you continue to do it for him he'll never really grow up. He's a big boy now and it's time you treat him like one. I know it's hard, but do it anyway.

Answer 13

Of course you're not horrible! I already worry about how my kids will be, when they're adults... However, he's made it clear that he doesn't want you to do this... As difficult as it is, I think you should respect his decision. If you don't, he may break off contact, and that would be even worse... I think, eventually, he'll be more mature, and will appreciate what he has in you. Good luck!

Answer 14

u know..my mom once called my work and yelled at a lady i was having problems with there...it was incredibly embarrassing..and humbling since i had to cal lthe lady and appologize for my mothers outburst...so id say let ur kid be an adult and let him watch out for himself now and again..still be mom, cookies and all..just stay out of his work, relationships, and potty business..lol

Answer 15

Your not a horrible person and I really hate it when parents do that whole "is it so awful to have someone who actually cares about you" thing. He is 24, he is young and he wants his independance. You need to realize that he does not want you to treat him like he doesn't know what he is doing-even if he really doesnt- its a good thing that you worry about him but just chill out. He needs his space and you will only make him resent you if you continue to embarrass him in such mannerisms. Try showing him you care in more subtle ways...like phone him after the storm when he is at home to check to see if he is okay.

By phoning him before the storm comes you make him feel like you think he is not mature enough or smart enough to take care of himself when the storm hits. This will make him upset with you.

Try to tone down a little bit and give him his space. Dont call him up for little things, he is an adult he can handle himself, and if he does run into trouble he will call up for your help if he needs it.

Answer 16

There's nothing wrong with it and it's great that you care, but look at it from his perspective.

He is a young adult, no doubt concerned about being a MAN. Having his mommy call him to warn him about a storm is one thing, but leaving that message with the secretary is a nother.

It's embarrassing to him to be seen as a momma's boy.

Next time, call his cell, or just leave a message telling him to call back ASAP. That way, it's his choice whether or not he shares that info with the office.

Answer 17

you embarrassed him in front of his co-workers who he wants to impress and think of him as mature. buy him a weather radio or have weather alerts  sent to his e-mail or cell phones

Answer 18

Cut the cord.  He's an adult.