Whats wrong with me?...Help please.

Question

Anytime a family member or friend or ANYONE trys to hug me i get a really weird scared feeling.Like a knot in my stomach and i just get really nervous.It's only been happening to me for the past 5 years and i'm 15 years old.

Also, any type of affection seems to make me really nervous.I had to break up with my boyfriend because of my issues, i felt like i was going to die when he'd go hug me or something else.

Whats wrong with me?! I really wish i was'nt like this, it's ruining everything.I just cannot deal with any kind of affection.Can i cure this?

Thank you.

Answer 1

I can not think of anything except one explanation- if you were every abused/molested in the past, it could make you believe that any sort of affection is bad. If this isn't the case for you, I would maybe see a therapist?

Answer 2

The same thing happens to me too. In fact I tried dealing with it by drinking a lot and now that I have quit Im running into the same problem again with getting close to people physically.

People have asked me if I have been abused in the past. I think sometimes if someone has felt threatened in any kind of way all forms of being close will cause someone to feel uncomfortable. I feel it is curable but you need to get to the bottom of that nervous feeling. Like keep asking yourself what is making me feel uncomfortable and also acknowledge any other feelings that might come up when getting close to someone. Also do you remember being 10? Has time since then been fairly normal? Any major life events go down? If you have someone to talk to about this by all means hash it out. I personally have a social worker who I talk to on a weekly basis which can help. Dont expect changes over night and be patient with yourself.

Answer 3

It Gad I have that for 9 years  

Answer 4

aw, first of all, dont worry too much about it, the more you worry and think about it, the more you would put your attention to it. try to relax a bit.

dont get too frustrated, I dont know why this happens, but maybe its because you are too nervous or maybe you dont feel comfortable about it.

*try think of their affection in a friendly way, if its someone you love you shouldnt have a problem with it

:)

hope you can get over it soon