Whats wrong with me? ami just depressed or sumthin?

Question

ok every little thing pisses me off for exsample...if i threw a football and someone misses it and its a good throw it pisses me off...i could get that persons head and run it in a wall lol...another example today iwas thrwoing baseball with my dad....i throw a perdect throw juss about 25 mph maybe...and he kicks it! and blames me! so hes holding his foot hollering im never throwing baseball with u again....lol he doesnt act like a sissy at all though...its in a man voice 2 so its awkward i get very pissed off and i come in the house to my step mom and say DADS THE BIGGEST BABY EVER!! and i tell her the story and get emotional...not crying but like studdering and stuff...and shes like be a man be aman and i slam the door of my room...and repeatedly hit my chair...(its padded)...i would punch a hole threw the wall but i wouldnt want to get spanked...and do lots of chores...Dont think im emo or summin...cuz im not ima Jock..not like i like it or nothing juss dont want 1st impression...plz help what should i do?

Answer 1

Sounds like you need anger management, more than anything.  Just because you are angry doesn't mean you are depressed, there can be a number of causes.  Some people are just born with a short fuse.  That's important is how you deal with it, what kind of "healthy anger" you have.  So, some ideas on how you bring your anger down, before you try anything else...

1.  Do something else.  As soon are  your temper goes up, do something physical.  Take a walk, run in circles, do pushups while cussing someone out, but get physically involved in something as soon as the anger hits.  This is called a replacement behavior, and over time, when you get angry, your natural response will be "do exercise" instead of "hit someone".  

2.  Express yourself.  I will go into a bath room and cuss my head off under my breath when I get angry at work.  Write down on a piece of paper everything you hate or makes you mad, then rip it up and throw it away.  

3.  Stay active.  Getting involved in sports or other activities burns off energy, as well as ensure the release of body chemicals that affect anger.  Getting a hobby won't hurt either.  Just choose something you enjoy and do it a lot.  

4.  Use your rage...there's lots of places you can take out anger without hurting someone.  Try a basketball court.  Try a mosh pit.  You'll find there are places and activities where having some pent up anger is a good thing, and releasing it there means you won't release it at home.

5.  Feel better about yourself.  If this is depression or self-hatred surfacing as anger, then do things than make you feel good.  I don't have to know you to know you're no worse than the next guy, and the fact that you're asking says a good thing about you straight up.  

Answer 2

i understand man. little things have been pissin me off lately too. just little stupid things. and i feel like they're the biggest deals in the world, and when i tell other people they act like it's nothing. when it is to me.. i really don't have an explanation for this, BUT, i'll just let you know that you're not alone.

Answer 3

You said spanked.. LOL. Sorry. It makes me giggle. (DONT HIT ME!!) :)

You said your a jock... Do you have Roid rage?

Just playing. Calm down...

You could have bad anxiety. Tons of people have it. It makes you have a form of rage when it all happens.

I think you should talk to your mom, or dad, or school counselor about it. They can help you.

I wish you lots of luck... Anxiety sucks

Answer 4

You may be an over-perfectionist.  I had the same issue once, where every single flaw bothered me. I have since learned to think lowly of everyone else and expect them to mess up, lol. It sure makes life more tolerable. When you expect the best from people, they will invariably let you down, and you will be frustrated. When you expect the worst, or at least not the best, from people, they sometimes will surprise you, and you'll be happy.  

Answer 5

well, you said step mom. so i'm guessing something must've happened with your real mom. i'm not gonna ask for what, but maybe thats what started to set you off. sometimes things pile up and you can only take it for so long until you crack. but, maybe i'm wrong and going about this in a different direction than what you mean. in my opinion, try to relax. go on runs, being your a jock, and try yoga. yes, it sounds cliche, but it really helps. take baths and try not to let the harshness of life get to you, because if it does, the little things will bring out your anger, just at the wrong times.