Whats wrong with me? why am i scared of socialising?

Question

I get really uptight when people want me to go out drinking or socialising in anyway with them and i scramble around for an excuse! I never go out and i have just 1 best friend. I feel physically sick thinking about it and the same if i actually go out.. what the h**l is wrong with me??!! Im a freak :'(

please help lottie, (19)

Answer 1

Firstly you are not a freak!! lol You are actually pretty normal......

Just because you don't want to go socialising doesn't make you a bad person. I think it would be a problem if you wanted  to go and socialise but feel you can't or don't know how to.

Find something that you are interested in and expand it if you want to.

Good luck

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Answer 2

Sounds like social anxiety.You probably should seek help.

Answer 3

You are not a freak.  There is a name for the condition you have.  It is called social phobia.  Here is some information about it.  I will add the link at the end.  Good Luck!  

Definition of Fear of socializing

Fear of socializing (social phobia): Excessive fear of embarrassment in social situations that is extremely intrusive and can have debilitating effects on personal and professional relationships. Phobias are persistent, irrational fears of certain objects or situations. People plagued by phobias recognize that their fears may be excessive or unreasonable, but are unable to overcome them.

The symptoms and signs of social phobia include blushing, sweating, trembling, rapid heartbeat, muscle tension, nausea or other stomach discomfort, lightheadedness, and other symptoms of anxiety.

If not treated, social phobia can be extremely disabling to a person's work, social and family relationships. In extreme cases, a person may begin to avoid all social situations and become housebound.

Effective treatments for social phobias include medications, a specific form of psychotherapy called cognitive-behavioral therapy, or a combination of medication and psychotherapy. Medications for social phobias include antidepressants called selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs) and monoamine oxidase inhibitors (MAOIs), as well as drugs known as high-potency benzodiazepenes. People with a specific form of social phobia, called performance phobia, can be helped with drugs called beta-blockers. Cognitive-behavioral therapy teaches patients to react differently to the situations and bodily sensations that trigger anxiety symptoms. For example, a type of cognitive-behavioral treatment known as "exposure therapy" involves helping patients become more comfortable with situations that frighten them by gradually increasing exposure to the situation.

Here is the link:  http://www.medterms.com/script/main/art....

Answer 4

You might think you have to be very social.

All you have to do is be a good listener.

People love to talk about themselves.

Ask them questions.  Make eye contact to show them you are interested in what they are saying.  You might be putting too much pressure on yourself.  Just take it easy and enjoy just being there.

Good Luck.