Whats wrong with my family?

Question

My Dad is always drunk and never stops argueing and putting me down. Not a day goes by he doesnt remind me that the draft might come back and i should be ready. He will just find the dumbest things to start argueing about like if his toothpaste isnt were he left it he will start saying why dont we have any toothpaste do you nasty people never clean your mouths and stuff like that. My mom always is laughing at things that are not the least bit funny and she will never stop talking. She will just talk on and on and keep repeating herself over and over i just cant stand it. She just doesnt understand when no one wants to hear her anymore and she will interupt me constantly. Also she is the biggest control freak i know. I will have a bottle of water sitting out and she will flip her **** if it doesnt have a rubber band on it to know that its mine. and im just going insane because of the constant argueing going on in the house because i have had to hear it for years and i just cant take it anymore.

Answer 1

im srry i know how you feel just try praying about it andn just anytime he says things that makes you feel bad just call on the name of jesus inside your head he will here you i hope i can help

Answer 2

Well, I know how you feel. My mom is an alcoholic and I lived with it for years! Nothing you can do about your dad, believe me I have tried everything possible. You can try to talk to him, but it usually doesn't work. When he acts like he wants to argue, just agree with him and go on. It makes life so much easier! Your mom is probably like that because she feels that she needs to make everything better. She talks so much because she is nervous, upset and confused. She is a control freak because there is nothing she can do about your dad, so she feels that she needs to control everything else around her. I just suggest that you deal with it for a while, agree with anything your dad says, don't argue, and count down the days until you can move out!

Good Luck sweetie!

xoxo Jadee♥

Answer 3

talk to your parents and tell them whats on your mind. if they love you, they will be considerate and respect your feelings. make them sit down and talk to them. i think thats the best advice to break the ice (hey, that rhymes lol =)

Answer 4

Your mom is the way she is because of the way your dad is.  She needs some kind of control and that is the only way she has.  She also has no grown-up to talk to so she has so much to say and no one to say it to.  Do you have anyone to talk to about this situation for your own sanity?  Do you have any relatives that you might be able to live with?  I would say that you all need God in your life and although this would not fix things right away all could start healing.  Please remember the truth that you are a great person and that the lies you hear are not true, I know that it is hard but I would try to find a way out with other family members or close friends.

Answer 5

Every family has it's problems. How old are you? Are you under age, so you have to stay? Or, are you 25? If that's the case move out on your own! if you have to stay talk to a school counselor, I did, and it helped me. Sometimes partents don't see  how they are acting affects their kids. and when the kid brings it up, they just think the kids are being disrepectful and rebellious like typical kids. But a counselor can help you get the real help you need if this is a problem.  But, don't listen to the put downs, it is just your fathers own insecurities. It is not uncommon for parents to feel as failures or resent their kids because they messed up their lives. THat is not your fault, You'll be 18 eventually, and can get away! Just keep that as something to look forward too!

Answer 6

I am so sorry to hear about your family problems.  This is what happens in an alcoholic home.  There are lots of kids out there going through what you are.  You are not alone and your reactions are normal.  There is help for each of you in your community.  

Your father could go to AA meetings, your mother to Al Al-Anon meetings and you to Alateen. Your mother could also attend a Codependent class.  I found that class the most helpful for my perfectionism and controlling behavior, which is a response to your dad's alcoholism.  

My children felt a lot better after attending Children of Alcoholic Parents.  My husband and I quit drinking before we got married, but some of the emotional behaviors did not go away.  We found this type of counseling educated all of us on alcoholism and what it does to each member of the family.  Things got a lot better and we are all glad we sought out the help.

I hope you find these links helpful.  I sympathize with your situation and hope things work out.  Don't give up, get help!  They can help you  with living with it in the home, or how to move on with your life if you can't live with it anymore.