Whats wrong with wanting to have a baby at 14?

Question

well im 14... and i want to have a baby. i feel unloved at my house. me and my boyfriend really want to have a child and we think we could take care of the baby. we both have jobs. hes 17. we are both in high school im a freshman and hes a senior. im sure ill be a great mother i love kids. sometimes i watch my baby nephew for weeks at a time over night when my sister is at work and stuff and im fine with him... dont tell im im too young an im a s**t becuz thts not gona change my mind of make me feel bad about myself if u call me a s**t

Answer 1

Im not going to call you a s**t, or a w***e or anything.

but if you feel unloved at your house, then what makes you think a baby is going to fix that ?

i understand you want kids but wait until the time is right.

wait until you're old enough to live together,

and then if you're SURE, get married,

and REALLY make sure you have a steady income so that the baby has the best life possible.

Theres nothign wrong with WANTING one, because i love babies and i can't wait to have my own,

but i know that theres a time and a place and im way to young.

You might think that its stupid,

but wait until you're older and you'll know you made a good decision.

i wish you and your boyfriend the best and hopefully you two stay together for the amount of years long enough to be able to make such a life changing decision.

just make sure you think twice.

good luck love.

Answer 2

No , I don't think you.re a s**t.I think you are getting a little ahead of yourself . First n education, then a job , boyfriend marriage then children. For your future children Listen to the new mothers , its rough . I had my first at sixteen  and It has and is a struggle

Answer 3

a baby is not the answer for "love" because trust me the first few years the baby doesn't even know what love is.  

but its normal for a teen to feel that way i dont think your a "s**t" and its alot different when you are watching someone elses kids.  

Answer 4

You want a baby because you feel 'unloved'? That excuse is old.

Answer 5

your not old enough to carry it and make it healthy

you have to be able to support the aby finantialy

and you have to be able to know how to be a good parent, make the right desitions,

it is scientifically proven that the average 11 year old can make a better desiction than a teenager,

and it ruins the funnest years of your life to be free, and your prettiest years of yuor life with a kid

Answer 6

You could have a child right now if you and your boyfriend wanted one, but you have to realize a few things first.   You both are in junior high still so legally you can only work so many hours a week, not enough to care for a child.  You both don't have a career yet and it will be hard for you both to go to college and take care of a child.  You live at home and bf lives with his parents so you will be the only one waking up in the middle of the night, changing diapers, etc......  Your bf can get charged with statutory rape even if you don't get pregnant.

Now if you wait until your married and have your career established, you will be able to give your child the life that he/she deserves!!!!  You will have your own home to raise your child, more than enough money to care for your child.  

If you wait until your older and more established you will be able to have fun with your teenage years before your an adult.  

Live your life now and have fun.  Then when the time is right you can become a mother.

GOOD LUCK

Answer 7

If you wanna have a baby, by all means, im not gonna stop you. But just consider that this will weigh you down for the next 18 years and beyond. There are other ways to happiness. Remember all the stereotypes you will get if you do have a baby. Ur only fourteen... u have your whole life ahead of you. The best idea is to WAIT.

Answer 8

maybe try when your 15. because there is an age limit.

you can't change any one's mind escipally over the internet i mean come on ya'll. let her have a baby if she wants! its her decision not our's. but sweety remember your boyfriend may want that baby now but what happens when it won't stop crying, & lets say your boyfriend gets mad & starts yelling and justs hauls off and hits you. what would you do then hmm ? so think twice!

& think about having to tell your parents.  when you have your baby its not like your gonna be able to hand it back like here mr. doctor my shift is up. i mean really think about this don't give up your life!

Answer 9

Unlike your nephew you won't  be able to hand this baby back you will also have the financial  responsibilities that go with being a mother, do you really think  what ever Mcjob your boyfriend   might be able to  get  will be able to give your child everything he /she needs?  . Seriously, get an education, get a good  job and tell your  guy to do the same. In the meantime get a dog.

Answer 10

'whats wrong with wanting to have a baby at 14?' -  EVERYTHING!!!

Answer 11

Ask yourself this;

1. Can I support myself, a guy, and a kid?

2.Can I handle what other people think?

3. Can I handle s*x?

4. How would my body look afterward?

5. Would be boyfriend be there to help me,

and if not could I take care of myself?

6. What would it be like in 10 years?

I'm not saying you shouldn't, but it's a life changing decision.

Answer 12

You aren't a s**t, you are an idiot. I hope that you realize if you cannot pay for yourself and your baby that everyone else in this country pays your way. Get a high school education and do something with your life- like pick up my trash.  

Answer 13

Don't do it, since your still a minor and your boyfriend is almost 18, not a minor, he could go to jail for rape. And even tho you think your unloved at home dont do it. And finish your education, it wil help you in your future. And just remember don't have a baby if you don't want your boyfriend to go to jail.  

Answer 14

well, there is nothing wrong with WANTING one i suppose........ but having one(before you have a stable income, life, and job, especially if your a teen) is really really bad. it will mess up your life. you have no idea.

Answer 15

I had my first child at 18, second at 21. It's a long, difficult road, and if you don't HAVE to take that path, please don't, for yourself and for your someday child. It seems like you are mature for 14, and you probably COULD handle it very well, but there is so much more to it than babysitting for weeks at a time. This is 24/7 for the rest of your life, no matter what. My daughter was a great baby, very easy. I had a blast with her even though I was only 18, but I sacrificed A TON to do it. I look back and I can see all the things I missed out on for her. My son was born with problems and he has special needs. You never know when that could happen. What if you had a baby now and it had health issues? I was 21 and dealing with a toddler and a sick infant who had to spend time in the hospital having surgeries. I was NOT prepared for that. My daughter is 16 now and the last thing I want for her is to have a child before she is established.

Honey, live your life, enjoy your boyfriend and your nephew when you feel like you want a baby around. Finish school, this is the only time you are going to be able to be a kid- please dont strip yourself of that right! Love every short minute of your childhood.  

Answer 16

go ahead

but then when the baby comes....you'll see how much your life changes

-youll have to drop out of school

-find a better job that can support your family [now that you wont be in school, it will be hard to find a job]

-kiss your childhood goodbye

YOUR LIFE WILL SOON BE OVER!

Answer 17

at 14 you're NOT old enough to raise a baby. just wait until you're out of high school and can drive and have your education before you go making a family. you have plenty of time to grow up. don't rush it. enjoy being a kid as long as you can.  

Answer 18

If you're so sure of yourself why are you asking this question?

Answer 19

I am terribly sorry that you feel unloved... I've always wanted children too, and I'm 23 and I still do not have them because I am waiting... I have other things that are important to me that I want to complete before I have kids...

Where will you live? Your parents could kick you out if you got pregnant and your boyfriend is only 17, y'all can't rent an apartment for another year until he's 18.

How will you pay bills?? You'll have to drop out of school, which you'll have to wait until 16 to do that and even with that you need a parents permission to do so--if you can't do that, you'll have to get emancipated and in order to do that you'll need a good lawyer. You'll have to drop out of school to take care of the baby because babies are a full time job -- your boyfriend will have to have a good full time job, maybe even 2 to be able to support you and your baby.

What will you do when you want to have fun again? Eventually the baby glam will wear off and you'll want to go out and be a teenager and party. And think about this: your little baby will be in grade school when you're turning 21 -- there won't be any time to celebrate correctly.

I say, wait. Of course... Of course i'd say that: I'm older and wiser and I can see things you can't see yet. At least wait until you're 18 and out of school. That's only 4 years.

Good luck with your decisions.

xoxox

Answer 20

There's nothing wrong with wanting a baby at 14. There IS something wrong with having one at 14. You need to finish school and get a STABLE job before you have kids.And because you're only 14-you have so much ahead of you that you won't be able to do if you have a baby..Like having a social life which I think is important in the teenage years. Having a baby is extremely time consuming and expensive..It's not easy and there is no way that having a baby is going to make your home situation any better. Please wait for the sake of yourself and a  little life

Answer 21

THIS IS NOT CYNOSURE....BUT U ARE VERY ****** STUPID!!...U THINK U KNO BUT U HAVE NO IDEA

Answer 22

there is nothing wrong with wanting one. there is just something really wrong with getting pregant at 14

Answer 23

having a baby is alot harder and more expensive then you realize. I spend about. I spend about $1,500 dollars a year o just diapers and wipes. Then you have clothes, food, shelter ( how are you gonna raise a baby in our parents house?) toys, medicine. Think of everyting you enjoy right now (going out with friends, sleeping in, etc) if you have a baby you won't be able to do that for a loooong time Also if your boyfriend isn't  making YOU feel loved then he isn't gonna be able to make a BABY feel loved

Answer 24

You need to think. I was 18 years old when i had my daughter. do you realize how hard it was...and still is??? I love my daughter with all my heart and wouldnt trade her for anything, but i had to give up so many things... mainly my freedom. and that, i still do not have!! that baby will be your responsibility for 18 years. You need to use your brain. for the first year of your babies life, there are going to be more doctor's appointments then you can imagine. are you going to walk your baby there? you dont even drive!!!  And for some reason, if you cant breastfeed, the cheapest can of formula is 15 dollars a can! Did i mention that your baby is going to go through about 12-15 cans a month??? where are you going to get the money??? having a baby is not a joke. You are being unfair to that baby, who isnt going to be able to have the life that it deserves because of your stupidity! You need to wait...trust me!  

Answer 25

I won't tell you you're too young, but I will warn you that once you fall pregnant.. You will be more scared that you ever have been in your life. When you actually have to go to the store and find baby product prices and add it all up... It's a pretty scary number!

Answer 26

there's nothing really wrong with wanting one but you have to wait to actually have one,i'm 14 and i might be pregnant and for me it isn't easy so i think you should wait at least until your 18 or 19,but you also have to know the responsibilities that come with a child,and don't forget about the pain you will have giving birth,so just think about it.

Answer 27

sure you have a "job", but it'd only be minimum wage at your age and you would run through that money quicker than it was coming in

also, with a baby you would have less and less time for school work and you would get much less sleep which would also affect your school work

universities wouldn't accept you if you have bad grades and youd be stuck in a minimum wage job and even if your bf had a normal job, its unlikely youd be able to give the child all it needs financially

Answer 28

Nothing is wrong but what will happen at school? others kids might tease you.What will happen if you can not support it then what will happen. You cant always count on your mom. Your mom and dad love but 14 years old is to young. what will happen to the baby when you are in school.

Answer 29

Please Please Please DO NOT DO IT. You may think you are ready but it is ALOT different when it is your own child. If you feel unloved how do you think the child will feel if you do end up needing help and they wont do it. Please wait until you are older. At least until you have a diploma or GED.

Answer 30

becuase it is a selfish wanting and for reason that a baby can't give you.

9 months of pain, mood swings plus your body is not ready. if you get pregant  and not getting enough nutrien the bany will rob it of your body.

you will not be able to go out with friends as much to not at all.

wait til you get a great job to support the child in school, clothes, toys, medical, ect.

it cost over 100,000 a year to raise a child if you only go with basics food water and clothing ( not counting medical, school stuff)

Answer 31

u ahve no idea HOW HARD IT IS NOW IN THIS ECOMONY ALOT OF PPL CANT EVEN GET GOOD JOBS.... TO PROVIDE FOR THE CHILD....