Whats your opinion on being engaged and underage?

Question

what do you think of getting married as a teenager?

is it ok if theirs pregnancy or children involved?

can two young people make it work?

Answer 1

My mom got married at 16, then she had my two brothers and got divorced sometime after that. I think some people can make it work, but others can't. My dad and my stepmom have been together for years. and they met in high school.

Answer 2

It’s easy to be past that stage in your life and look back and realize  I had no idea who I was going to be later on as a teenager. Thing is, I also know that since I thought I knew *everything* about life by the time I was 18, there’s no way I would have believed anyone who told me otherwise.  For that reason I wouldn’t waste my time trying to change anyone’s mind. I think that we need to learn our own lessons in life.

I do not think that a pregnancy is a good reason to get married at any age.

Can it work? I don’t know. I don’t have a crystal ball any more than you do. A long lasting union is hard to maintain no matter when you start it. It takes effort to make a relationship last. I think biggest hurdle is the intense amount of growing up most people do in their late teens into early 20s. You just might find, as I did, that the person you are at 18 is nowhere near the same person you will be at 25 or at 30.

Answer 3

i think a girl should be over 20 to have children because teenagers are children their selves. How can they take care of kids? being married is nice if both the girl and guy is happy but i think the minimum age should be 15 not less than that otherwise it will look odd

Answer 4

While I know that alcohol isn't the most important thing at a wedding, do you really want to toast sparkling grape juice while your guests have real champagne?

And, do you want to be buying diapers before you can even buy beer?

Answer 5

Honestly it all depends on the people. What works for one couple doesn't necessarily work for another.  

Answer 6

Getting married as a teenager is the WORST idea ever! As a kid you're not mature, you don't think clearly and most kids don't think longer past 2 weeks into the future. LOTS change in months to a few years and people change within that time.

Grow up some, figure out who you are and what you want. Explore an education and make something of yourself.

I am sure some will disagree with this next comment because maybe they are the exception to the rule, but being lets say 17,18,19yrs. old  married and with kids and no life of your own, no exploration, no education -- you will grow to regret it someday that you never took the 'you' time or that you never educated yourself or had a career. Also people who tend to marry young without 'really' knowing who they are tend to have later resentments in life. Towards family, their spouse, etc. because 'you' missed out.

I'd say WAIT! There is so much time in your life to really think about marriage and kids. Enjoy your youth!

Anyhow marriage is meant to be a LIFELONG commitment between two people. Can you really say at 17, 18 or 19 that you are mind willing and emotionally ready to take on a commitment of that nature?

Answer 7

I think two young people can make it work - if they are willing to grow and mature as a team.  Having children will make it harder because it's additional pressure financially and the focus will be on the parenting aspect rather than the marriage.  Marriage is hard enough at first, especially if you're immature, without bringing children into it.

Answer 8

you should be 18 to get married and yes you can make it work

Answer 9

I also agree that it depends on the people involved.  For every story of a bad relationship, there is a good relationship that lasts and works.  However, I am opposed to young engagements/marriages on principle, because I've seen the odds in our society, and it isn't good.  

I also laugh, though, because in some cultures (and relatively, not that long ago in OUR cultures), teenage marriage and parenthood was the norm.  Once a girl became a "woman", it was time for her to settle down and start a family.  Granted, the men were usually older and more established before they took a wife.  But all this nonsense about being too young is a recent development in the whole perspective of human existence.  

And maybe I'm going too deep, but I do suppose that the way children are raised nowadays makes them unable to be mature in their teen years to handle marriage and parenthood, so that you could argue that even though it used to be normal, the very essence of our teenagers have changed so that it is no longer a feasible way to live life.

Answer 10

babies are the worst reason to get married.  that's a great way to bring extra stress into an already stressful situation- as if being newly married to someone isn't enough to deal with! personally I don't think anyone should get married until they're 30.  

Answer 11

If you are already pregnant and you truly love each other, then you could consider marriage.  BUT if you are pregnant and it is just a fling, then making another huge mistake is not going to help the issue.  If you are not pregnant and simply think you are "in love' don't do it!  All the cards are stacked against people that get married too young.  You absolutely have to live life on your own before you settle down with somebody!  The person you are at 17 and the person you are at 30 are not the same!  If you do not experience and enjoy your youth, then you will regret it and try to do it later in life!  Once you have kids, you cannot be selfish anymore!   So do what you want when you want while you can!

Answer 12

My opinion is this:

1 - Teenagers should never get married.  There's a reason why the legal age to get married is what it is.  If you're not old enough to drive or to drink, why are you old enough to make a decision about who to spend the rest of your life with?  

2 - I don't believe you should get married just because you got pregnant. Having s*x with a person doesn't mean you're compatible or have the same overall values or are even in love these days.  I think s*x belongs within the married relationship, not an activity for bored teenagers.

3 - Hard to say.  Everyone is different.  Some have made it work, others haven't.  Depends on the amount of work you're willing to put in and if both sides are willing to remain faithful and contribute to the marriage.

Answer 13

My opinion is that it is possible that two teens can make it work, but not likely nor probable.

Answer 14

My best friend is 20 years old and engaged, and I STILL think she's too young to be engaged!

I think people should wait AT LEAST until they graduate college before they get engaged and married and start having babies.