Whe is it to old for a daughter to sleep in the same room as her dad and his girlfriend (who isnt her mom)

Question

My daughter is 5 and when she goes to her dads (who still lives with his parents and brothers) she sleeps in the same room as her dad and his girlfriend who lives there. sometimes she even sleeps in his bed with them, or with his parents and even with his brothers sometimes. when is the appropraite time to say this needs to stop and she needs her wn room? is it ok for her to be in there, especially when they are probibly having s*x with her right there, it bothers me very much Help!

Answer 1

If they are having s*x in front of her I believe that's illegal, however I think passed the age of 8 they should sleep in their own bed.

Answer 2

Stop this now.  Five is too old to be sharing beds with adults, including her father, relatives, etc.  I can see nothing good coming out of this situation.  I would discuss different bedding plans for her when she goes to her father or else she should stay home.  She needs her own bed.

Answer 3

if they are having s*x thats disqusting... but my boyfriends daughter is 5 years old and she sleeps in bed with us.. right in between us.. and loves it... she jumps in the bed with her jammies on and says okayyyy come to bed!!! we would never ever ever have s*x with her in the bed... we would just move her to the couch or something... yuck on them!

Answer 4

well I have a friend who's Daughter is 5 and she sleeps with her parents every night.Do I agree with this No.She she should be sleeping in her own bed  or at least not with her Dad and Girlfriend.She needs to be a bit more independent at this age and the adults nee there space.I suggest a hide a bed or a futon or something of the nature for there house when she is over there.

Answer 5

It's ok at 5, absolutly nothing wrong with it; and nothing wrong with sleeping in the same room at any age; especially since that's the only room they have. I seriously doubt they are having s*x in front of her. It seems more likely that you are looking for something to complain about.

Answer 6

Right at this very second! She needs her own room! Tell your ex that she can't see him until his daughter gets her own room. If you have to call the cops, then do it! Get full custody of your daughter.

Answer 7

This might sound dumb, but ask your daughter what she thinks. Is she uncomfortable, or does she like it? When I was littler, getting to sleep in my dad's bed was a huge treat (I have divorced parents, so I know what it's like).

Also, you're probably over-reacting about them having s*x with her there. This man is her father and can judge what is right and what's wrong, so give him a break.

Answer 8

Your Mama Bear heart is screaming loud and clear. You're in a difficult situation. "Too old" started the the moment his girlfriend started sleeping over.

Even under the best of conditions, your daughter is too old to sleep with dad without you in the same bed. I'm surprised his parents allow such blatantly immoral behavior in their home, at the cost of their granddaughter. It's not uncommon for families to ally themselves with their own child and blame the other parent for the separation / situation.

If her father is responsive to your concerns, work with him to find her own sleeping "space" at grandma and grandpa's house whenever visiting. If not, she doesn't belong there. If there's any chance they have s*x with her in the room, let alone bed, it would turn into a matter for Child Protective Services.(I also believe any psychologist or doctor would not only agree, but would be legally required to call CPS him/herself if they knew.)

Personally, under those conditions I would keep my daughter at home and legally arrange for dad to individually visit in our home, without the girlfriend.

Please please pay attention to your mother's warning system. It's right-on. Good luck, sweetie.  

Answer 9

She should not be sleeping with either of her parents period.  Whether or not they are having s*x is a moot point.  She is too old to be sleeping with her father or her mother and should have a place to sleep by herself.  

Answer 10

um now!!! omfg! that is so gross and illeagel shame on them. your innocent daughter has seen god knows what.