When Enough Is Enough?

Question

My husband’s daughter from his 1st marriage is under my health insurance from my job and they cover 100% up to 1000 a year. She exceeded ‘cause the mom keeps taking her to most expensive therapist in her city ‘cause the mom uses drugs and alcohol a lot and the daughter is under a lot stress. Also, the daughter had mouth surgery ‘cause the mom never told her to brush her teeth.. We also pay child support. We can’t ask for custody ‘cause my husband is in the marine hardly home and my job I travel a lot. Anyhow, the mom called my saying the insurance won’t pay for her doctor visit anymore and ask me to do something I explain to her and she was like well it says in divorce decree that he should be paying for health insurance and I was like you should be paying whatever the insurance don’t pay it says it in there too and I told I’m sick of it and I will remove her from my insurance and she could be under her dad’s where she will get $2500 yr. Is not my fault she is 8th grade drop out who wants other people to do her job, she got mad when I said all this to her did I cross the line or what? I also tole my husbnad I had enough don't want have to pay for his past mistakes and he agreed to it.

Answer 1

Is not your to take care of his daughter they had it together you weren't even there when they had her.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

I agree with you, I would drop her off your insurance as it is not your responsibility. Your husband needs to talk to the ex wife and take care of it. I am also a wife with a step daughter, I have learned when it comes to "His" biological child let him take care of all issues, we as the "step mom" will never be able to make those decisions.I would think that if your husband pays for the insurance, he should have a choice of whom the daughter goes to for medical care.  Unfortunately the law is not on your side, but it cant hurt to check. The ex is taking advantage of your husbands responsibilityy.  Good luck to you both.

Answer 4

I think you did the right thing..

it is not fair for her to take advantage of the situation..

Answer 5

I can understand your pain the only thing I would say was way out of line is calling his daughter a mistake that's to much because in a sense that's what you did. Next time be careful with your words.

Answer 6

i agree with you, but why wasn't she on his insurance in the first place being his daughter anyhow?

Answer 7

dont want to pay for hubby's mistake??2 choices: cut the financial lines from the former family if they prove to be a pain in the *** (& the pocket too)for you & ur hubby or,if you think u had more than just enough,cut the hubby loose from ur life as well(that is if you can take that choice,after all hes the main connection between u & the former family anyway).

Answer 8

no, i dont think you crossed the line.  You are doing what you can and its not fair for her to expect that she can take her daughter to the most expensive doctors.  If they areso great then maybe she should be done going to them lol

Answer 9

Yep don't pay for your husband's MISTAKES. i DON'T CARE CARE WHAT PEOPLE IN HERE SAY BUT HIS CHILD IS PART OF HIS MISTAKES SAD BUT THE TRUTH DON'T LET THEM WALK ALL OVER YOU.