When Is a good time for another baby?

Question

I am 22 & I have to great kids a 7 year old & a 3 year old. I grduate medical college this December (yeah it has been hard but I did it) oh yeah the kids father are long gone & I have no contact, support, or anything no biggie I love my kids & I am glad that I get them all to myself & I don't have to share.

Anyways I want to have another baby but I want to soon, like maybe get pregnant when I am done with school you know, well the other day I was at the doctor's with my little boy getting him a physical for school and there were babies there & he was interested in them. Well I told him that mommy was going to have another baby & he said no that there were no more babies and that he was my baby.

I have a great man now he is 30 and he doesn't have any kids. Sometimes I think to myself that I want to have more but sometimes I think I really don't. I love kids but I don't want a new baby to affect the two I all ready have. My 7 year old says she doesn't want a new baby. Advice?

Answer 1

what does your man say?  if you're all happy, what's the problem?  keep things as they are

Answer 2

First off congrats on being able to accomplish so much raising kids being a single parent that's so great. Since your 7 years old already has a sibling and has to share you now i can she why she's doesn't want a new baby around more sharing and of course with your 3 year old well like he said he's the baby and doesn't want to give up his title anytime soon.  If yo do have another baby its not going to scar your children when they find out i'm sure they will love the idea. You sound like you want one but i think your still unsure about it and even though you want one you need to be sure it's best for everyone involved. I miss my daugther being a baby all new and innocent and you don't have to beg to hold even just for a few min your babies are growing up and your going to miss that baby stage all parents do.  Have you talk with the man your with about this? He just might want the 2 kids you have now and not add a 3rd one to the mix right now talk to him and find out. You worked so hard on medical school why not work on your career to get ahead now your just 22 you have plenty of time for more kids but use your youth to get ahead now.

Answer 3

why would you want to have a baby right now. you are just getting ready to start a career as a dr. wouldnt it make more sense to get your career going, after all you are only 22. you have plenty of time to have another baby. that is just my opinion

Answer 4

wow... you have had a rough go of it havnt you? 22 with a 7 year old/? so you were like 15 when you had your first??? well im very proud that you went to school and completed it and everything too... give  yourself a pat on the back!! I think that if you and this man are ready for a baby then go ahead and have one, i mean you seem to have things together pretty well. and as long as  you can give them the love and support they need thats what mattesr... and i no you love your kids but its not there choice... they will love there little sibling when he or she comes along.. and i wouldnt even talk to tehm about it until you are pregnant and start explaining to tehm that they are going to have a little bro or sis.. good luck hunnie

Answer 5

Your kids say no to a baby because they think they will loose all the attention they get from you ..

I don't know for how long you've known this guy, but I think you should wait til your youngest child is like five yrs..Don't have them to close..well that's me ...

Answer 6

Well, I'm thinking your 7 year old was an "accident" since you were 15.  Not sure about the 3 year old but it sounds like from the same dad.  Both accidents.  Do yourself a favor.  Don't have any more kids with anyone until you are married.  Stay on birth control.  Don't have another accident with this great man you have.  Otherwise you risk that this great man can walk off someday too and never look back.  Sure, divorced dads can never look back too, but at least they have some sort of a legal obligation to them.  Your kids will grow up and know this and guess what - they'll be pregnant at 15 too because it was ok that mom was.