When a couple breaks-up do you?

Question

still think about that person years down the line (not in a romantic way) but do they cross your mind...do you ever wonder what if or what would it have been like if the relationship actually worked out?

Answer 1

I do wonder how their lives have turned out, but no, I never think about what could have been. The opposite really. I'm glad I didn't end up with them. As someone else said, they were good people, just not good matches for me.

Answer 2

Of course, I'm sure everyone does. But it doesn't mean I would ever act upon those thoughts...if I ever saw a past boyfriend I wouldn't want to pursue anything because I am happier than I have ever been right now.

Answer 3

Yes you do. i still love and think about my first love 22 years later.

Answer 4

I do  

Answer 5

Ohhh yes, but then I think of the things that I learned and was able to take from that relationship to my current and future relationships and that makes me happy and great full cause I know that she helped me grow as person. And for that I will always remember with her love and joy.

Answer 6

it doesn't matter how long a time that has passed, if u really loved that person u will always wonder what might have been had u stayed with that person.divorce doesn't mean u can erase them from your heart, or mind. also when someone really destroys u and rips your heart in two, u remember that too.sometimes fate will intervene and u will see someone from the past, a family member,and it will bring it all back, like tonight my ex sister in law came for dinner and brought some photo's, of him and i and it did bring it all back, and again i thought to myself had it not been for the other woman perhaps we would still be together today.  

Answer 7

To be honest, yes sometimes I do think about it. It depends on the boyfriend though, my last one I know what would have happened - I would have been miserable my whole life! I know what you mean though, sometimes I think about past relationships and I do wonder what would have happened but its the past and focusing on that will only get you down!

Answer 8

I can speak only for myself,but yes.I think about how previous lover's are and what they are doing.They were a part of your life,and why should you forget them?

Answer 9

No. My love life is just way too important to me and that's all I care about.  

Answer 10

Yes you do.

Answer 11

Of course.  I even hear from 2 or 3 of my old boyfriends from time to time.  The first guy I ever thought I would marry?  He was in grad school for a health profession when we met 30+ years ago.  About 10 years ago he started preaching and now he pastors a church.  I'm not patient enough or tactful enough to be a preacher's wife.  So that particular "what if" is always good for a big chuckle.

Another ex is a high-powered prosecutor in the district attorney's office.  In fact, about 15 years ago you would have seen him on CNN and the broadcast network news, because he was lead prosecutor in a very famous case.  My jaw dropped when I walked by the television in our snack bar at work and there he was on screen.  If I'm not patient or tactful enough to be a preacher's wife, you KNOW I couldn't live with a man who has to hobnob with politicians.

ANd all the guys I dated who went on to live normal lives?  Yeah, some of them make more money than my hubby and they have bigger cars and bigger houses and they do the fancy vacations.  And some of them went on to be truck drivers.

I married the right guy after all.

Answer 12

When I am alone I do think of the ex's.  Some of them are great people, but they were wrong for me.  So I try and move forward.

Answer 13

Depends on how important the relationship was to you to begin with. I had been married before, and it didn't work out, and yes, I do still think of this person on occasion - it's been almost 8 years since we broke up.

Answer 14

I think its perfectly natural to wonder about what may have been. Once you have feelings for someone they will likly fade a bit over time but they never really go away completely.