When a friend continues to make bad relationship decisions, do you even bother saying anything? ?

Question

My friend, who has a little boy, has been separated from her husband for about 6 months, not even started divorce. She is already dating, and asked him to move in, a co-worker who currently has a little girl and still lives with the child's mother. He claims they are no longer bf & gf, but have to live together for financial reasons. He says he has told the woman that he is moving out Sept 1, assumably to live with my friend. I just see this as another train wreck for my friend. Why can't people just not have to be with another partner and just focus on raising the children that also came out of a now bad relationship. I don't really say anything either way when she talks about ner new love.

Answer 1

This is a  tricky one , mention it once and then just drop it , she's (mature?) woman,if you had  the intelligence to figure there's something wrong , what makes you think she hasn't thought of the implications of her actions , maybe putting some distance between you two would get'er thinkig................

Answer 2

I feel what you feel for your friend. You could try to get her interested in something you both could do together and have fun with. I am concerned about her child seeing and having strangers in the house the most. It's not about other relationships, it's about a little kid!  If she wants a boyfriend and single life more then she should give her child to someone (for the time being) that will take the time to give her child a full and happy childhood, with lots of time and cuddles.

Answer 3

yea

i dont bother sayin anything either anymore!!

i feel that it's just a waste of my time if shes not goin to take what u have to say into consideration!!

It's beyond ur control .. so jus let her learn the hard way!!

Answer 4

I have a friend like that, too...always asking what I think....always going on and making the same damned mistakes with different people.

I become very upset when she gets used, but she's the one that lets it happen!

I'm at a point now, where I only listen, don't give advice, don't tell my opinions...cause it doesn't change anything.

She's ruining her life, and I can't help.

Answer 5

Some people just wont be told :) maybe try and advise them slightly but if they never listen is gets annoying being the one who always has to say i told u so

Answer 6

I know how you feel, my friend is in a terrible relationship and refuses to get out of it. All you can really do is be there for her and her child when they need you

Answer 7

just be there for support IF it goes wrong the absolute worst thing you could do is interfere...it might backfire and she would blame u for the split up.

Answer 8

You are so right!  People who have been frazzled in one relationship many times look for another frazzling relationship to enter into.  However, you still need to sit down and talk to your friend in a loving way and let her know that what she is doing is not a good plan.  It is evident that she is headed for a catastrophe.  Now only is her co-worker crazy, but he is taking advantage of both of the women.  She is probably a person who does not like to be by herself, and will do anything to find a companion.  Continue to talk to her, however, in the end, she will find out the truth for herself--- Toni D.  

Answer 9

If i could help i guess I will ;]