When a man marries a woman but doesn't let anyone know, what does that mean?

Question

A 40 years-old man, had been married for 10 years, then had a very bad break-up and divorce 8 years ago with his wife because he caught her cheating. Two years ago, he met a girl and got married only 4 months after they knew each other. The 2nd marriage has been a secret to all his family and friends because he's never told anyone, only the girl's family knew they are married. His explanation is he doesn't want his ex-wife to know then use any excuse to send him to court again for more child support, and also because his 2nd wife wanted a big wedding, so they're planning to have a big wedding later if the marriage can really work long.

Does that make sense? When a man married a woman and doesn't announce to anyone, even his own family and best friend, what is that supposed to mean? What is he thinking?

Answer 1

Maybe he wanted to make sure it was going to work to save him the embaressment of a second failed marriage.

Answer 2

Is his name Ron?

This story sounds SO familiar.

He isn't telling because he wants to continue living as a single man while he's away from you. He doesn't want anyone to know, and the courts are not going after him for child support!  It isn't based on your income. It's based solely on his. He is not wanting anyone to know. He wants his ex to think he still loves her.  I'd do some digging, especially if his name is Ron. I'm serious. This sounds just like another man I know.

Answer 3

He probably married a fuggo!  He's too embarrassed of her looks, but too addicted to the disgusting, and/or degrading things she's willing to do for him.

Answer 4

I would check the wedding certificate to see if it is a real one. Furthermore, I would question his love for his 2nd wife. Sounds really shady and crooked. When you find some one that you love enough to marry them, most people can't wait to introduce they're new spouse. He's a 40 year old man for goodness sakes. I think child support is a bad excuse as well. I hope that you aren't the poor sap that married this man. And I use that term very lightly. There is nothing more unattractive than a man with no gonads.  

Answer 5

He's kidding himself and has no real committment.  Marriage is a huge committment and should mean forever.  He sholdn't have gotten married only to wait to have a big wedding to see if it works out.  

Clearly he's not ready for committment and is very bitter about what happened with his ex.  The wife should take this as a huge red flashing sign and bolt asap because he's definitely ready to at any moment.

Answer 6

He's hiding something more about his ex wife.  He owes her money or something.  The whole thing really doesn't make much sense.

Answer 7

The stuff about child support is BS.  His second wife's income wouldn't be considered.  I think that he's still got something going on with his ex and doesn't want her to find out about the other woman.  That, or he's a bigamist and is married to more than one person and introducing the second wife to the family would expose him.  I can't believe the second wife married him if he wouldn't even introduce her to his family.  It's strange, to say the least.

Answer 8

if you love him trust him hesprobablyy  thinking they want approve since he reallydintt know you    

Answer 9

It sounds like you feel as though he is hiding something.  I think the person should confront him about this situation.  If this woman feels uncomfortable going into the marriage because he is not telling anyone about it, she should tell him, I think this situation is definitely one that anyone would be concerned about and for that reason, he must be confronted.  Tell him that at least one person he knows should be aware of the marriage and hear what he says.  Finally, always go with your gut feeling, if you feel that something is wrong, most likely something is definitely wrong

Answer 10

He is still sleeping with his ex-wife.  He feels this will anger her.  He does not want to pay child support.  He is a selfish, self-centered man.  He is hiding something definitely.  He should be proud of his new found love.  And, sharing his happiness with his family and friends.  It does not add up, not unless, he is going to lose something by telling.  He wants to appear single to the public eye.  It sounds like he wants to have his cake and eat it, too.

Answer 11

maybe he doesn't know if it will work out, so he's keeping it a secret.