When a woman is faced with the choice of being a mother over being a happy woman - which should she choose?

Question

For example a woman is unhappy in her marriage through no fault of her own - or her ex husband who treated her badly is begging her to return - or she is simply desperately unhappy in her marriage and knows there is better happiness for her away from her children's father - even if this means that she remains single. Should she stay with him because of the kids or leave him?

Answer 1

How could a mother ever leave her children behind? Id leave with the kids or not at all.

Answer 2

I do believe that she "should" do what she has to ... this means if she cannot bear she'll leave no matter what she heard about sacrifice for the sake of the kids and vice versa

Answer 3

That is a really confusing question.... reading the header i thought where is happiness in motherhood or in a single free life away from responsibilities of motherhood.... and i thought well, motherhood brings me happiness more than anything in this world.

But then i read the rest of yr question and it is nothing short of a big dilemma....

But it all comes down to WHY this woman is unhappy in the marriage... i mean if the problems she is feeling arise from a difference in opinions and characters between the 2 spouses, then that is manageable and understandable and will get better on the long run. Besides i beleive it is good in a way for children to see that even their loving parents do have problems but can work them out.

However if the problems they are facing are due to one or both not feeling anymore in love or actually feeling that they made the wrong choice or due to some BIG issue like betrayal of trust or loosing all sense of security.... then they will be living their lives feeling miserable and it WILL affect the child sooner or later. Still separation is a tough thing to bear on a child whose only interest is to be among both parents.

But yr q is about the 'happiness" of the child against the happiness of the mother...... well obviously through motherly instinct a woman will let go of her won happiness to do what is best for the happiness of her child (Which could mean to leave that spouse and live a single life.... doesn't necessarily mean the opposite).

I am sorry for a confusing answer but it is not an easy question.

Answer 4

Ughh another boring question that has nothing to do with Egypt. If you can't take responsibility for your children DONT HAVE THEM! easy as that!

Answer 5

Honestly, I think that if she is a great mother she will think of the best interest in the children. If the unhappy marraige will harm the children in any way (physically, emotionally, mentally) she should definitley leave. If not, staying with the fatther is the best. If she does leave, the ex-husband should be a better father for the children. That's just my opinion...

Answer 6

being a mother and being a happy women is different.

I think you should live with your own live with out a husband as you mentioned in your question due to his bad treatment.

but you have to think also some times we have to suffer for our children, to let them have happiness in our pain, pain never lasts long.....i know its hard option.

give him a chance only and only for the sake of your children.

wishing you happiness through the love of your children.

Answer 7

What woman exactly?

There are some women in this world, in every culture who would stay, and there are also some other women who would leave, it's as simple as that..

and i don't think that there is something called sacrifice in this particular issue, the woman who chose her family even if she is not happy with her husband will be more unhappy if she left her children, so she practically did or chose what suits her personality's best..so i think it up to every woman's personality and higher need..