Whenever I read a bulletin for a child who has been abused or neglected, and is behaving "abnormally" because of it, I always see something about changing their behaviors, or something along those lines. That always sounds to me as though the interest is not in VALIDATING their very real pain, but itstead, the focus is on getting them to act the way they "should" so that the adults around them can be comfortable. That just sounds wrong to me.
I understand that it is a good thing if the behaviors are lessening due to validation, support, therapy, or whatever...but should that really be the GOAL? It seems to me that the goal should be a kid who feels validated, loved, accepted no matter what's going on, no matter how they act.
What are your thoughts?
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