When answering marital problem questions do you...?

Question

feel that in some of those questions we're only answering based on the 'asker's' point of view, and that there could be more to that story that they're not telling or have wrong?

Like for example, say someone asks why their husband neglects them and says after 10 years that husband abuses them emotionally or does not love them blah blah. And for me i think...well how could they be married for 10 years and live everday with abuse and some 'roommate' where was it ever good and how'd they get married? And MAYBE...just MAYBE the one asking probably did some dirt themselves that they leave out of the question because it's about what's being done to THEM?

Has anyone ever thought that was the case or was ever curious?

Answer 1

Yep!  Not all mind you, but some.  I usually try to avoid questions that I believe are not giving the full, honest, accurate story.  I try to answer a question from both sides of the spectrum.

Answer 2

Oh i always play the devil's advocate.  You'd have to be mentally disabled to not realize that the person asking the question is going to make it look like they did nothing wrong.  

Answer 3

absolutley for every action there is a reaction.

Answer 4

Yes, I do wonder at times how much of the story is missing in the telling. My Mum said that there are always two sides to every story.

I have been in the position of hearing both sides on occasion, and to hear the tales, you'd say the two never even knew each other, let alone shared a life together. Perhaps that is what was at the root of the problems in the first place, that they couldn't/didn't/wouldn't communicate to each other at all.  

Answer 5

i always consider that but you can tell most of the women on here don't  

Answer 6

it is allways the case, even in my counseling sessions, you NEED to have both partys present to get to the honest truth.

All we can do here is present the most senceble answer based on the info provided.

Answer 7

I thought about that, but if people want to get the best answer, they have to be honest. If not, they won't get any help from the answers.

Answer 8

My fiance's mom dealt with 23 years of physical abuse from her husband and she is still married to him.

Edit: Of course it is her fault that she gets beat. The lady doesn't know when to shut her mouth.