When baby is born im going to ask for child support from my ex?

Question

do i need to go to court as well as my ex? its def. his, so will they do a paternity test? what is it like going to court for child support im 16 and hes 18 we dated for two years.. i never been to court!!

Answer 1

Yes you will have to go to court and they will make you have a dna test. Just remeber, asking for child support gives him rights to the child. Don't know your situation, but something you need to keep in the back of your mind.

Answer 2

You will have to go to court unless you get a lawyer and he might be able to get you excused from the court because you need to be with the baby.... There will be a paternity test more then likely as he will try to get out of it any way he can and even tho he knows its his he will insist on one and pray. Go after everything he has and while your there try to get a protection order, he said he wanted you and the baby dead so that might be enough, Talk to a lawyer.

Answer 3

This is how it went for me. I filed with the attorney general to request that they go after him for child support. he claimed it wasnt his child so they court ordered us both to show up at a testing facility where they did the  test. About 2 weeks later we had the results. Then within a month we both recieved a subpoena from a constable to appear in court. We went to court where they first take you to a mediation area. We settled everything there with his lawyer (I didnt have one), and the attorney general employees who set up child support payments, childs last name change, insurance for child, visitation schedule, etc. If the standard visitation/child support is contested by either one of you, then you will go before the judge the same day after waiting for hours. Do not feel forced to agree with anything just to avoid the judge. If you dont feel the standard visitation or child support is appropriate then let the judge hear your case and decide. And you can not bring the baby. If you dont show up, he will get what he asks for since you will not be there to contest it. If he doesnt show up, you will get what you want (within reason) because he isnt there to contest it.  Someone can go with you for support, but only you and he will be allowed in the mediation (and lawyers). But the agents that work for the attorney general are going to handle everything with minimal effort for you and it generally works out for the mothers advantage.

Answer 4

First of all how old was he when you conceived? Not only will he have to pay child support, but he will get a charge since you're under age.

Anyway, if you go through the Child Support Enforcement Agency, the whole ordeal will be settled and you may not have to see each other at all. They will first court order a DNA test (he will be given an appointment first to get his mouth swabbed then you and baby will go at a later date). When the results are in, the both of you will receive a copy in the mail then a court date will be set. The agency will act as your attorney and there may be a hearing set for him and a member of the agency and you may not have to attend. At that point, payments will be established and he will have to pay back the fees DNA testing (about $400). If you have to go to court, you wont have to say much the agent will do the talking for you. It's a good idea to take a close friend or relative with you. It's kinda hard to face the person who has put you and your baby through so much h**l. Do your research now so that you will be ready to start *** soon as baby is born. Take a look at this website http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/exti...

I've been there when I was 15 (I'm now 23 with 3 kids). It's tough, but you'll get through it. Contact me if you need support or any advice.

Good luck and congrats on the baby!

Answer 5

Yes you will need to go to court.

You will **probably** also have to prove he is the father with a paternity test.

Answer 6

don't ask - demand that he pays child support - yes get a paternity test - because if he is challenging you - your first name will be s**t - so before he gets an opportunity to slander you - get the test and this will be your proof - right now you are both young - so raising this baby will be challenging on may levels - get a good emotional support system in place because a custody / support trial can be a long one.  If he wants to be a part of your child's life - please allow him to be - $$ is not the only thing you baby will need from his father or from you