When do i give my son his promise ring?

Question

I need to know when do i give my son his promise ring, he is 15 years old, we had the talk when he was 12. but I don't know when i should give it to. I never had one so I dont know these things. please responed, 10 points.

Answer 1

I never heard of  nothing like this before.

Answer 2

I would say to make sure that you talk to your son before you give it to him. Make sure that he understands what he is promising, and if he cannot make that promise do not make him accept the ring. He could lie and go off and do something else. I'm not trying to say that he is a liar. If he is 15, he should be able to make his own decision, with your help of course. :) Be sure to let him know that you understand what he is going through and that you are there to talk to him whenever he needs it.  

Answer 3

are promise rings really necessary? i think they are a tad bit over rated  

Answer 4

I think at 15 is the right age for  the promise not to have s*x before marriage ring .. just make it a special occasion .. go out to dinner with the family and tell him how proud of him you are and give him the ring and explain the values behind it

Answer 5

promise ring? I thought a promise ring was a pre-engagement ring..are you sure you don't mean a 'purity ring', which is a custom new to me.

Answer 6

i didn't know you gave your son a promise ring. may i ask what's it for?

i mean is it for him to give to another girl or is it for him to promise he wont have s*x until a certain time? you stumped me here.

Answer 7

If he understands why you're giving it, then there's no reason why you can't give it to him now. :) If he wants to follow God and make his promise, then I'd say give it to him. :)

Good luck =]

Answer 8

Is it a promise of abstinence? Give it to him now if you have already talked about it

Answer 9

My parents gave it to me when I was fifteen. I'm sixteen now. I was fine with it when my parents did it.  

Answer 10

Well I think you mean a purity ring......

And I would give it to him now. Or if his 16th bday is coming up soon, give it to him then. Are you sure he wants one though??? Guys normally don't want to have them. Actually, this day in age, most girls don't either. But especially guys. Maybe you should talk to him about whether or not he would like one before you go buy it.  

Answer 11

You can give it to him now. It is the right age. My friend got hers on her 16th birthday.  

Answer 12

its kinda creepy for a mother to give her son a promise ring...

Answer 13

And how is your son going to explain this to others? Isn't it enough that you had the talk? Now he has to wear a ring his dad gave him promising to be a virgin till he gets married? Talk about setting him up for ridicule from other kids.  

Answer 14

i think right now.. kids are being pushed even more now at that age. Id sit talk to him and then give him it.. im sure he will cherrish it

Answer 15

I also thought it was exchanged between gf and bf when they became engaged?

I'd let your son decide if he wants to wear the ring - he may not want to, rather than forcing / giving / suggesting he wear the ring, please educate him on safe s*x (just incase).

Promise Rings aren't always the most effective gestures anyway

All The Best

Answer 16

A promise ring has to be a mutual decision or it won't mean a thing. Has he told you he wants to wait for marriage? Have a frank talk with him, if not. If you two have discussed this aspect, then give it to him now.  

Answer 17

you are marring you`re son?A promise ring is when he  is getting married or in a relation ship that you know u will be getting married soon,But you just do not know when.

Answer 18

I'd say now. Kids these days (sadly) are having s*x in early teens, younger than 15.

Answer 19

I thought promise rings were given between lovers, as a pre-engagement ring?

Answer 20

If you've already had "the talk" with him then there is no reason why you can't give it to him now.  Good For you!  More parents should do this sort of thing!

Answer 21

wtf would you be giving your SON a promise ring for?

Promise rings are cheesey tokens of sentiment typically exchanged by high school kids because they think they are going to be together forever even though they probably won't.

If this is a celibacy thing, why does he need a ring for that? Unless you are planning to put it on his p***s a ring will not cause him to be celibate.  

The best you can do is keep him informed and educated, make sure he has critical thinking skills and can weigh the pros and cons of s*x.

Answer 22

Considering promise rings are meant for pre-engagements...I think he is a little young yet for this...especially if the ring is of importance and you want it to stay in the family.

You should wait until he is a little more mature and in a long, stable relationship...when you know how serious their relationship is.  That way he won't just give it to the first girl he falls for...and never gets it back.

I would definitely wait this one out...

Answer 23

I've never heard of parents giving there kid a promise ring? Promise for what?

Answer 24

I am assuming you are talking about a ring to save him self until marriage? Now is about the right age, trust me.  

Answer 25

Give it to him now i know so many kids that are doing thing they shouldn't at 13 years old thats so wrong and BAD but im not there mother so i can't do any thing about it

Answer 26

I thought a promise ring was like a pre-engagement ring you give to your girlfriend. What is the promise ring you are talking about?