When do u hav the right to hate your own brother

Question

i have an older brother (six years older) and since we were young (me and my twin brother) he has always been mean to us, when i remember back when we were kids all i remmember me crying to my mom becuz of him. when we refuses to giv'im something we own he badmouthes us and insult us. when we try to get along with him it gets worse, he wants everything the way he wants even, when i watch tv and he comes n say >>switch to that chanel. although im watching my show when i tell'm so its like i insulted him and he throws insults or pretend to be the good guy infornt of my mom. he always hits us and we were kids all we could do is crying to our parents and unfortunately my parents dont take it seriesly and consider it a natural brothers fight forgetting that he's 6 years older which makes him physically stronger than us. now im 17 years old and i hate him so mch

(we actually) that we cant stand just lookin at him. im tired of trying to get along with him so my mom doesnt notice the unstable relationship bitween us because he never appreciate that. each time i try my hatred increases because doesnt deserve it

i want him out of my life

i dont hold grudge that i want the bad for him

i just hate him and try to stay away from him as much as possible

im so dying to finish high school so i can continue my studies abroad which will keep me away from him.

even when i try avoiding him at home he still keeps hurting us by passing by our room and throw words on us

when i tell my freinds about it they say that allbrothers fight and get back together. they dont kno what i've bean through when i was a little kid and he keeps hitting us and all i remmember me crying to my mom. he always belittling us infornt of everyone

i want your opinion if i have the right to hate him

because no one is agreeing with me

i went to the psychologist becuz of him

Answer 1

I only have older brothers.  My oldest brother was often mean, short tempered and such.  I didn't like him much.  But when i graduated college, and we were both adults, and he treated me like one.  Well, like an equal.  And i mostly forgot the times when we were both growing up.

My other brothers saw me as a project, and helped accelerate my education, brought me places, and so on.  They're both very cool people, and would be my friends even if they weren't blood relatives.

It's easily possible that your brother could use a good councilor. Maybe some good drugs.  Sounds likely.  Can it be arranged?

I'm really glad that my oldest brother and i got to know each other as adults.  He's dead now.  He died when i was 32.

Answer 2

u got the right to hate ur bro i hate mine too sometimes i woner why do bros exist if they only hurt us?just try to avoid the fights and tell him that u r equal to him seems like he thks he can rule u and yell at him if he yells at u

Answer 3

Im an older sister..And i probably act the same way with my little sister. Its not that we hate our little brothers...is that its frustrating when our parents treat them way better than us when we were the same age. For Example: My lil sister can go to partys without no questions asked. But back then i had to ask them for permision 1 or two weeks before the party....And then on the same day of the party they wouldnt let me go...or made my lil sister go with me....Thats probably why your older brother acts like that...his jelaous. Just remember he will always be your brother. And he loves you even if he doesnt show it. I think you should stay away from him for a while and let him miss you...im sure he will realize that he made a mistake by the way he treated you.

Answer 4

Sounds like you've got one seriously nasty specimen of a big brother there, who by now should have grown up.  He must be what, 23 now, which shows he can't be quite all there to carry on the way he does towards you.  Does your twin feel the same as you?  Is your brother jealous because he's not a twin?  Yes, you do have a right to hate him by the sound of things.  However, hate is a very strong word and if it continues hate is an emotion that can slowly eat you up inside, doing you harm, not him, while all the time he's carrying on as usual.  I don't know how, but you and your twin need to set him up in ways that other people, especially your mum, can see for themselves what a pig he is.  So get your heads together and have a good think.

Thinking of what you say of your Mum....when my older brother started senior school, he turned nasty and started this thing of cracking his nuckles over my head when my back was turned.  My mum never saw him do it, and when I told her, she just told him to stop, never realising how much my brother was physically hurting me.  I sometimes wonder how mums can miss so much in their own homes!