When do virgo men stop doing the push pull thing?

Question

He can be such a selfish jerk sometimes, then a couple of days later, realize it and then come back and be really really nice , sweet, and thoughtful. Like he "retracts" whatever selfish thing he did.

When we first got together, he said we were moving too fast, and wanted to slow things down and get to know each other better. But he THOUGHT I was thinking we were more serious than we were, and he was wrong, and he knows that now.But we haven't gotten back to where we were. It's like he's fighting himslef to let us move forward.

Is this typical?

Answer 1

Hmm I dunno sweetie. I guess I don't kno that much about virgo men. I would recommend doing your own research. Like they say, if you want it done best..do it yourself! :). Ha!

I recommend Linda Goodman's "Sun signs" which is, luckily for you, on the internet :)

right here

http://mizian.com.ne.kr/englishwiz/libra...

Answer 2

OK I'm a Virgo man and I can't even answer that question all too well.  I will admit I was hurt in the past and for a short time that played a role in my second relationship with a rather lofty Libra.  Long story short, she broke up with me saying I was too controlling and I told her that I would do ANYTHING to right my wrongs..... if only she understood how much it tore me up inside every time we argued.  Not a day goes by I wish I could take all those hurtful things I said to her back, but seeing as no one's managed to invent a time machine I can't and just have to live with it.  I know the mistakes I made and I'm man enough to admit I was wrong, but she herself wasn't perfect either always hiding things from me especially just before we broke up.

Anyway this is about you not me, so the whole push/pull thing is unusual even to us Virgo men.  Ask him if he's been hurt in another relationship before; if he has he's afraid of getting hurt again (push) but he doesn't want to be alone (pull).  If not then it's most likely commitment issues.

Answer 3

Some men have emotional or commitment issues and they push/pull because they get uncomfortable with the idea of being too close out of fear or out of something else. Or he might like someone else or think he might.

Push/pull is not honest if it keeps repeating because they are not being honest with themselves or with you about what they want.

They should either embrace the relationship and deal with their fears or they should pull back and stay back.

Or, he may have a personality disorder where he fears abandonment or too much intimacy and then you can't fix him.

You can decide whether to accept that or not.

I think it has nothing to do with being a Virgo but more to do with being an emotionally unavailable man or an immature man.

Answer 4

when there is trust and you show that you are serious in the relationship (like reliable, loyal) to him, you're for keeps.