When do you tell your kids where babys come from?

Question

i was just wondering when u told ur kids about s*x where babys come from, period, how do u tell them all that kind of stuff im a new mom i know i have a way to go before i have to tell her anything but my mom never told me anything i just guessed it on my own, also how did ur parents tell u what did u feel like after hearing it from them and when u told ur kids did u feel like they lost some innocents

Answer 1

my mom told me about periods wen i saw her pads wen i was probably 8 or 9. but the whole s*x deal was prob. around 12 (going into jr. high)

Answer 2

yeah i found out about it on my own also, but it depends on the age of they are still young i dont think its the time to tell them because thats when they become curious about what you have told them and try and do it on there own so i suggest u wait until they are mature and a little bit older and tell her everything instead of him or her finding out on there own afterall thats what mothers are for.

Answer 3

I have a four year old I had his sister when he was two. Then he didn't pay much attention or ask questions. I had Azland 4 months ago Hayden was very curious and I do not believe in lieing to my children so when he started asking questions mostly about how the baby would be born  I let him watch maternity stories with me and the births while explaining to him that is what I would be doing. I told him some people hurt very bad and thats why they were screaming but It wasn't that bad for me and I didn't cry with him or his sister so I would be fine.   He understand the jist of it and I don't feel he lost innocents from me telling him...Although I haven't had to field the how the baby got in my belly question yet.  If he asks I'll tell him

Answer 4

Please tell them at least before they hit 3rd grade.

My parents didn't tell me anything and I found out from the kids at school (who of course, had it all wrong).

And I think it would build a better trust between you and your child.

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Answer 5

I'd say when they're ready to ask, they're ready to know.

there's nothing dirty or "wrong" about s*x itself, and there's nothing wrong with children wanting to understand it.

I'd rather have my child educated enough by me so that they don't need to ask other sources that might not be as reliable.

Answer 6

i was 9, my mom told me about it. Although I already heard from the kids at school  wayyy before then. I have to admit my first reactions were "Ewww".

You should probably just tell them when they ask, unless you think their too young to know about it.

Answer 7

im a new mom too, and i would say around 6 years old, but most kids already know where babys come from, they are just waiting for you to say something first, thats how my niece and nephew were

Answer 8

I believe we should tell them when they ask.  However, the answer should be age appropriate.  If they haven't asked by age 10, you should tell them.

Answer 9

As soon as they ask. Most children ask this question and it is best to be honest. No need for elaborate details or anything, just honest straightforward answers.

My daughter was probably 3 or 4 when she first asked.

I dont remember my parents telling me about it.

Answer 10

Every kid starts asking questions, it is how you react to those first questions that will set the stage for open or closed communication.  I believe that you should give kids as much as they can understand, no more and no less...  It is also important to be realistic and honest.... that will help in later years.  

When my daughter was 5 she asked me about babies and wanted to know mommies know when they are going to be pregnant.  I think she over heard one a part of a conversation with one of my friends that was talking about her pregnancy.  I told her yes, mommies do know that, but they also have a choice about it.  It takes planning and there are things that people can do to make it happen and there are things that can keep it from happening... I told her it is all about making the right choice....

My daughter is now 16 and she and I are very open about things, she comes to me with questions and even her friends know that I will talk to them without making them feel stupid about what they don't know.... In the past couple of years I have gotten questions about condoms, STD's and other things.... I feel better about my daughter coming to me with questions, then learning things from her friends.....

Just be honest with your kids, and talk about what morals that you have and be open about the choices we have in life... such as staying safe and not taking risks with out bodies.

Good luck.... my mom never gave me the talk and I had to learn from my boyfriend.  Not always the best place to get informtion.  I still consider myself lucky for not getting pregnent before I chose to.

Answer 11

I learned from health class in school & my dad's girlie magazines that he 'hid' in the basement.  

My kids are learning about the awesome way they came to be & the incredible way that our human bodies work, right from the start, as a natural part of conversation.  Starting with cuddle time, when they're little, telling them about the day they were born.  And, bath time, when we talk about all of their body parts.  Then, answering new questions or offering new information, naturally, as it comes up in the course of our days.

Answer 12

The proper age is whenever they ask. When they ask you, answer them honestly - but be sure to keep it age appropriate. I don't believe it should be a 1 time big s*x talk - use any opportunity to answer your kids questions and teach them at every age - that way the communication is established and they should be more likely to come to you with their questions as they get older.

Answer 13

I say me and your daddy had intercourse it was fun.