When do you think a girl should loose her virginity??

Question

Because of this message I read said this girl was 13 and having s*x!!! OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! And what scares me is where I live theres 6th graders havung s*x!! Is it the parents fault or the childs friends and influences??!!!!!

I lost my virginity at 17 and I still wish I would of waited at least another year!! As much as I LOVED that guy he made me realize you have to be smart these days cause guys they'll tell you waht you wanna hear for about a year or two or 3 til they get what they want!! I waited 3 years before having s*x with this guy and he still left me!!! SAd I know!! lol but I guess it was better cause I found someone better and who truely loves me and has stayed with me through thick and thin!!!

Answer 1

its just how are socitiy is.. look around at some of the music and tv .. there is s*x everywhere.. and infulenceing kids to have s*x.. they make s*x look cool.. so kids want to have it.. so they seem " cool"

personaly i think you should wait tell your comptley ready and there is no age limit on that..

Answer 2

On their wedding night to their husband

Answer 3

When you get married !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 4

Marriage.

Do you know why? There are advantages you are losing your v on your marriage or wedding night because you don't have to worry of getting pregnant, STD's, etc. You have jobs and support, so no worries.

Also, marriage means you are spending the rest of your life with your man or girl so that's when the love gets stronger (if the relationship is healthy, not just abusive).

That's why I would rather wait for marriage and not giving it away to a stranger that I don't know.........

EDIT: Oh come on, two thumbs down. Look up to this user, Love, Ori. She has the same answer as mine and she got four thumbs up....

How unfair........

Answer 5

I lost mine last year, I was 16, still am. and it was with a boy I love and I am still with. I knew I was ready and I know I am going to be with my guy..well forever. I had the whole "Wait for marriage" ring and such, but it did not last. And I agree that 13..is way too young. I don't think your body is even READY for that.

Answer 6

well i think a girl should lose their virginity when they are ready

&i blame movies like 'superbad' for the 13 yr olds   having s*x

Answer 7

18&&up

Answer 8

Any girl, or boy (I don't get the bias in the question, because in my opinion it's the same either way just like when someone sleeps around) should lose their virginity when they are emotionally ready... which I think should come some point at the end or after their adolecence. I say this because adolecent people develop and change so quickly, and go through so many emotional changes (especially with their hormones) that they can't be sure what they want. I am sorry what happened to you... but someone who loses their virginity at 15 might not have the same experience or regrets that you did. I lost mine at 16 and don't regret it at all! (And unlike some people you hear about, I was sensible about it) Your experience wasn't your fault, and in a way it's good because if he was with you waiting for just that he probably would have done the same a year later so exposing him for the jerk he was allowed you to move on and find someone that loves you for who you are. :) What I don't agree with is when people have s*x because their friends do (I knew someone who did this). I think parents should make themselves more approachable... if they're like "NO s*x AT ALL blah blah" then the child gets the impression that if they find out they'd be in trouble so that leads to the children lying and keeping secrets which might result in unsafe s*x. I would be shocked about the 6th graders but I don't know how old that is (In UK)? x

EDIT: ALSO... having read some other users' answers... it's not just heard of in society today. For example, those of you who have ever read the book "Romeo and Juliet"... Juliet in the book was 14 and Romeo was 18... neither were married. I know that book was fiction, but it shows it wasn't unheard of in Shakespeare's era.

Answer 9

marriage

but that's just by my own beliefs

s*x is something you have to decide for yourself and yourself only

Answer 10

i think people should wait until marrige. that way they are prepared. if u get pregnant the guy will not most likely leave you. but what people want to do i dont judge. but 13?? my gosh thats crazy..but i dont judge

Answer 11

omg i knoww! i know some one who lost it in 5th grade!!

and another who lost it in seventh to a guy,same grade, and she was his seventh! and her 8th grade year she got pregnant!

then another kids who did in 6th

really i think its the influences now days

Answer 12

when they are ready but i think that if they are younger then 15 its too young

Answer 13

I think both guys and girls should wait to lose their virginity until they are adults (18). s*x isn't for children. Also, I think they should be in a healthy relationship with their partner for at least a year before having s*x with them. And of course, they have to feel that they are ready.

Answer 14

When Married.

Answer 15

umm i think that you should have it when you get married becuase you know that that person truly loves you

Answer 16

Whenever the girl feels ready.

s***w what other people say about what is an 'acceptable' age for a girl to have s*x, its about when she feels 100% ready.

Answer 17

When she's married.

Or, if not married, at least ready for the consequences of s*x.

Like, an STD, or a child.

Pregnancy is no joke.

Neither is s*x.

Answer 18

i think when u are married to the right person u should start doing that and if someone is pressuring u then say no cause they are not a true guy!!!

Answer 19

Whenever they feel they need to. If they are emotionally and physically ready, then they will know what to do. Yes, some guys do do that. But that doesn't mean that all do, and i really dislike seeing that stereotype spread around. I see no problem with younger girls having s*x if they fully understand the possible consequences of their actions, and are doing it with a guy their age, not some older guy.

Answer 20

marriage!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 21

13 year olds are in sixth grade?!

Answer 22

well i got pregnant when i was 14 and had my son at 15 so when ever you are  in love. me and my bf since 13 are still together at 19 and he is 21

Answer 23

When she's mature and 'ready' enough.

Answer 24

I'm eighteen and I'm still a virgin. i don't think there is a right time to lose your virginity but it's probably easy for young teens to give up because they don't realize the weight of what they're doing till later besides they haven't really formed their views yet and I'm rambling.

the best time to lose it would probably when your very sure about what your doing, when you know you can handle any of the consequences.

Answer 25

I think a girl should lose their virginity when they find the person they love. I know it sounds very cliche, but I'm being serious!

I think 17 or 18 would be the "ideal" age though, because you don't necessarily want to be a 40 year old virgin.

My [ex] best friend was going to have s*x with her boyfriend when she was 13 years old. She only agreed because he was really popular at our brother school and she had just lost all of her friends at our school for being sl*tty (go figure), so she wanted to have s*x with her boyfriend. Then he broke up with her because he didn't want to go through with it.

6th grader having s*x? That is NOT right! I've gone to second base (I'm 13 years old) and that when everyone stops. I want to be abstinent until I am at least in college, if not older. There is this girl in the grade above me who had oral in 7th grade. There is no one (that I know of) in my school who had s*x at 13 years old. That is just ... not ... right.

I think it is the child's friends and peer pressure. I don't mean like "Have s*x, its cool" peer pressure, I mean like "OMG I had s*x last night, it was amazing" peer pressure. The type that makes the kid like WANT to have s*x because they think it feels good. There is only so much a parent can do, so I hate it when people are like "Where were you while your 13 year old was having s*x? You're the worst parent ever!".

-Catherine

Answer 26

When you can't refer to her as a girl anymore.

Answer 27

ill say about 15 years old

Answer 28

I think you should be at least 18 years old.  s*x isn't for children.  You should be in a healthy relationship with your partner for at least one year.  You also should discuss pregnancy with your partner and see what their opinion is.

Answer 29

Wow in my opinion marriage because you know that the one you with will not leave you and be with you no matter if u get pregnant or what. And definitely then because you know he loves you and is not 1. wasting your time and 2. using you

Answer 30

when she is ready.

you ask, you aren't ready.

personally i'd wait until marriage.

Answer 31

AFTER SHES MARRIED!!!!!! DUH!!!! GOD these girls who have s*x at ike 12-13 yrs. old are making a very wrong dicision... just because your friends do it or you see it on TV doesn't mean you have to just to be cool.... stupid peer pressure...