When does it get easier?

Question

My boyfriend and i just broke up over the weekend. our two year anniversary is next week. i know it's only been a couple of days but honestly, i'm not taking it very well. he's been in training since the middle of june and won't get to come home til december. we get to talk on the phone every day but apparently that's not enough. he said its not worth staying together if we don't get to see each other. then he told me our personalities aren't compatible and i don't make him happy anymore. but he told me i didn't do anything wrong so i don't get it. i'm in denial he says we are but i don't think we're over for good. i believe that its hard on him to be away from home so if he has one less thing to miss then it would be easier and since he can't shut out his family or friends he chose me. i love him with every single inch of my being. he's the only person i can see myself with. i was always there for him. i put him before everyone. i believed in him. i cared for him. i prayed for him.

Answer 1

It gets easier when you develop the self esteem and self respect you need to be less DEPENDENT on him or anyone who you NEED in such an extreme and desparate way.  

I'd google: self esteem training and learn to be more self confident and less NEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEDY of other's approval and 'love'.

Answer 2

Honey,,, its ok to be sad about it especially since its only been a couple of days. Who knows maybe it was better this way especially since you don't see him. If he was not feelin it anymore you should not want to be in the relationship with him. You don't wanna be with someone who is unhappy with you do you? Give it time.

Answer 3

I feel sorry for you hun. My BEST advice if someone wants to end a relationship, as much as it HURTS, you have to let it go. Don't call him/text/email. It is not good to chase someone who doesn't want to be with you. Your wasting your time! Time you could be spending on YOU for a change.There is someone out there who wants to be with you and will love you.