When family is inappropriate??

Question

What do you do when family or close friends say things that are inappropriate? ie you got nice boob holders?? or they say some other perverted thing. Anyone have to deal with a relative like that

Answer 1

I tell them as I do anyone, that their words or actions are inappropriate. This way, no one is 'in the dark' as to how I have accepted what they put forward. One must always let others know what their sensitivities are. This makes everyone feel better about how they are received. Now, if you have a family member who doesn't understand how to talk to and with you, you must 'train' that individual. If not, the person will walk all over you and get worst. I know because it happened to me. This was corrected by me as I got them told, and in an appropriate and decent way. I might add that more than one family member had that 'nerve' to be crude and ignorant. You must stand up for yourself and thus, you can't help but be successful. BEFORE you enter a room or building, say quietly, "Peace Be This House." - Luke 10:5 You will be surprised how folk will wonder why they are so sensible and peaceful. You will take credit for putting God first and letting Him control your life. What shall we then say to these things? If GOD be for us, WHO can be against us? - Romans 8:31. The Lord daily loadeth us with BENEFITS, even the GOD of our salvation. Selah. - Psalm 68:19. Peace!!!

Answer 2

HONEY,IF IT  WERE MY RELATIVE I WOULD B LIKE,,YOUR JUST RIGH T OUT  STUPID,,,AND WALK AWAY,,,,PEACE

Answer 3

LOL heavens yes. My parents used to tell me the grand tetons aren't as grand as yours.And you know what i mean.I have been big chested my whole life I had breast by the time i was 8 and so forth.They even made me a tee shirt that said the grand tetons aren't as grand as these.I never took it wrong or got upset just laughed and ignored the comments for they weren't meant as a perversion just a fact...Good luck

Answer 4

Ha ha ha, that's kind of funny...

Anyhow, I wouldn't even take it offensively, my family and I are very close and we joke about things like that all the time... I just wouldn't take it to heart... Find something to make fun of them back! Have fun with it... :)

That's my advice.  Try to make it as if it doesn't bother you, even if it does, because the more that you show you are embarrassed or bothered by it, chances are they will keep doing it to harrass you... That's what family is for, I suppose.  But if you show that it doesn't bug you, they will eventually stop!

Good luck ♥

Answer 5

'You have nice Boob holders' !  Would that be what the French call (in translation) an 'Under chin Support' ~ meaning, 'a bra'?  It just sounds a bit puzzling that someone should comment on your underwear!!  

Were you wearing it at the time!!

A young woman I know once commented to her uncle, in front of their family, after he'd made a few inappropriate (and basically incestuous comments towards her), "You know, you turn me right off of men".  She now lives in a L*****n relationship ...although whether this is to prove a point...!

Why not simply say, 'I find your remarks offensive / upsetting and or inappropriate'.  And if that does not do what you want, simply avoid having any contact with him / them.

Sorry, I wish I could offer up something more positive or useful.

Sash.