When having s*x with a good friend...?

Question

how should you go about it? what can you do to preserve the original friendship, so as to not make things awkward but also not try to progress into a full-blown relationship?

Answer 1

I suggest not having s*x with your friends, or at least not your good friends. This will almost always have a negative effect on your friendship. Your friendship may become awkwardd, due to the fact that you may want to do that more and more, thus removing COMMUNICATION, wich is the basis of friendship. Preserving the original friendship is almost impossible by adding a variable like this, but it is still possible nevertheless. But seeing as this is your choice, I would go with an approach along the lines of: "We've been friends for a while now, and I feel we can help each other out in different ways. You are one of my best friends, so i wanted to see if....." Also keep note that if you demand that they have s*x with you, they may doubt the friendship was real in the first place. Even guys don't want to be used, regardless of how many of "us" use women. Once again, I advise you not to go ahead with this. But if you do, bottom line is that you dont want to make them feel they have to, or guilt them into it. I hope this helps :)

Answer 2

Ok, for some reason you want to have s*x with a good friend but you want to avoid having a full-blown relationship? Why do you want to have s*x? If you really desire this person, then maybe you really want a relationship. If the other person really desires you and you don't desire him/her, are you just having s*x out of a sense of obligation? If the other person really wants a relationship, wouldn't you be misleading this person?

Decide what you really want, a good friend or meaningless s*x. I don't think you can have both.

Answer 3

I don't understand why people have s*x when they're not in love, anyways.  Good luck with the heartbreak.

Answer 4

:] hmm i'd say keep him close by touching and flirting most of the time, but also let him know that you're not only interested in only him.. it won't be akward if you don't make it feel akward .. go on as if nothing happened. and so will he :D

Answer 5

Hello,  I am brazilian , bye bye!

Answer 6

You're probably better off not doing it at all. No matter how hard you try, the friendship will suffer.

Answer 7

Lights completely out and under the sheets.

Answer 8

that is very hard to do

Answer 9

The questions have to enter into your head if it is worth taking the chance and possibly ruining your friendship.  Some times the things we want on impulse can have long lasting affects on us.  So be careful if you choose to take the next step and actually talk about it before you do it so that if you both decide to go there, you both know or have made guidelines for the friendship.  It will be awkward to engage in something like this and then try to continue things as they were before it took place.  

You need to also remember that he and you both have the right to pursue something deeper if it feels right.  Don't block it if it does, sometimes best friends make the greatest lovers and sometimes they don't.  Whatever you choose, be safe while you're doing it.

Answer 10

Having s*x with a friend. Is friend's with benefits. And most times it does not work out because you or the other person's feelings can develop into a relationship. And you have to ask yourself if I continue sleeping with him or her. Will it hurt me in the long-run. Good

Luck  

Answer 11

start dating first c how it goes then sleep with him!

haha, well if it gets 2 b serious you cann

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<3 calie <3

Answer 12

marriage first then s*x... so no, you shouldn't have s*x without "a full-blown relationship"  that's ridiculous.

Answer 13

Get drunk.

Answer 14

obviously do the Seinfeld way: make ground rules, like spending the night is optional and calls dont occur for 3 days

Answer 15

Why would you have s*x with a good friend?

s*x ruins friendships.

Answer 16

Don't. Go to school.

Answer 17

HAH!  Good luck with that!

Answer 18

Just be yourself and not focus on the s*x part.  my friend and i had an unspoken understanding. usually, we as women, we spaz out and get all emotional with guys when it comes to s*x. just be cool about everything and don't talk about it unless he brings it up.  

Answer 19

just dont if its a good friend. what if you have a kid? then you will kick yourself.

Answer 20

just focus on how good it feels

Answer 21

um, you're so messed up.

Answer 22

If i were u i wouldnt have s*x with a good friend..maybe you guys should try going out and see how it works out for you.

xoxo,

<3sammy<3