When he doesnt want to talk about other girls?

Question

what does it mean?

that he never has had a gf and your his first crush and doesnt want to make himself look like an idiot or say something stupid. so says nothing.

has had bad experiences in the past with his relationships, maybe getting turned down, rship problems etc.

or something that he does to girls that he doesnt want to admit to, like controlling, rebelling, playing around etc.\

or even getting into a relationship scares him or something like that.

because every time i mention other girls he either wants to ignore what im saying and change the topic, or he will make up what he is saying. sometimes saying he has had 1 gf sometimes none.

so what does this mean? is he hiding or is this common in guys?

another thing is that he is from overseas so i was concerned if we did get into anything i'd b at risk, because i wouldn't know if he had a gf or if he is a player etc.

so i just kind of wanted to ask him but he doesnt seem to want to talk about it.

help thx

Answer 1

I'd be very wary of dishonesty or lies but he may really have been hurt in the past and if you insist on getting an explanation from him, he is going to look some other place for companionship that will not be as demanding. You do have every right to protect yourself and if you think he is not being honest with you, chances are he's not. Some guys don't place as much emphasis, as far as importance, on their past relationships as women sometimes can. Listen to what your intuition is telling you and if you're uncomfortable in any way, there is always a reason...and it may not be you.

Answer 2

Maybe it doesn't mean anything. Maybe he has low self-esteem. Maybe he's embarassed he's never had experience with other girls.

Answer 3

He's either a player.. or maybe he's g*y..

Maybe he's just really shy...

Either way, if you can't get the truth out of him about how many girls he's been with, then you don't need to have s*x with him.. or if he's not willing to open up about anything really, then having a relationship really wouldn't be a great idea, at this point.

Answer 4

Likely, he doesn't want to answer because he senses, correctly, that whatever he answers it will cause problems.

Better question, why do you want to know?

To ask him is to sound insecure--a turn off.

Best to major in ways you can be fun to be around.

There is only one solid foundation, and that is a good relationship now and preserved that way the best you can.  

If you start to worry about his past romantic interests, where does it end?  Do you worry too about present temptations or future temptations too?  What can he say to you that would convince you completely that the past is the past?