When & how should we announce our new pregnancy?

Question

In May 08 i had an ectopic pregnancy. We have just found out that i'm pregnant again. My husband wants to wait a while to tell people our news...

and the other problem is that because we already have 4 children, i'm not looking forward to the criticism that will surely follow.

It was bad enough when i was expecting the fourth.

Why are people so against large families these days? I have always wanted 6 children and i'm so sick and tired of all the comments we get.

They're well looked after, fed, clean, we own our own home, we both work, the kids never miss out on anything. Why cant people just be happy for us???

I'm so excited and have to tell someone so sorry if i have just gone on and on.....

thanks

Answer 1

Well, i would wait till about 3-4 months, then after just be like "Soo...were having another baby :D"

who cares if you have 4 kids, theres some people out hthere with WAY more kids, my friends dad had 17 kids, with more then 2 girls..

as long as you can support all 5 kids, then it shouldnt matter what people think, theres tv shows about people with lots of kids, they get famous :D  

Answer 2

congrats! Just wait a little while to tell people your happy news, maybe once your first trimester is over (and I know that's hard)! Ignore their dumb comments...some people want large families, some want smaller ones. To each their own.

Answer 3

Congratulations on your wonderful beautiful news.  I'm sorry that you have heard criticism before.  I think sometimes people are that way because they must be miserable in their pathetic lives and they need to try and bring other people down with them.  Pay no attention to their comments.  Enjoy your pregnancy and your big family!  I wish you a healthy pregnancy.  : )

Answer 4

Sorry about your ectopic, congrats on your new baby! :)

People are against large families because the world is grossly overpopulated & the more people there are, the more waste there is

Children cost an enourmous amount of time & money. So even if you both work etc, some one has to watch the critters If you both are at work then who is taking care of them?....This is why others are so critical of your desicion

However, your baby is a blessing & it is wonderful that you want to have a big fam I say to each his own! As far as announcing goes, wait until you are ready ( I was ready @ about 11 weeks) and have a few people over for dinner Make baby lamb chops, boiled baby carrots Everything baby. As you are bringing out the dishes say things like "I made baby lamb chops & baby carrots for the main course etc" Someone will get it lol Again congrats

Edit: I wasnt asking who was watching the babies I think its commendable that you are married stable & doing what you want I was saying thats why 'other' people have such a problem with it, thats a thought that comes to their mind. I think big families are cool (although I would never undertake one of my own)

Answer 5

ignore what other people say, as long as your happy that's all that matters. i'm sure your kids are well looked after.

CONGRATZ!! =D

((HUGZ))

Answer 6

That is nobody's business how many kids you and your husband are planning on having or already have. It's up to you and him and especially you because you will be carrying the baby.You are taking the risks. Why should you worry about what people think? You were bless with four and another on the way so what.. There is nothing wrong with having 6 kids. If you and your husband can financially afford it I don't see why not. Good Luck.

Answer 7

I think that the best way is to take a family photo with everyone smiling real big and then go to VistaPrint.com and have them put onto post cards that say "We are having a baby!!" (They are really cheap). Then send them to everyone.  

Answer 8

Congratulations on having four children. I think that is fantastic if you are able to do it and provide for your family at the same time. I just could never afford to put four kids through college. It's nearly impossible unless you make a fortune. A good way to announce your pregnancy is through ofoto.com. Download a pic of you and your husband and use the pre-set forms they have. It's worth the price.  

Answer 9

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!  How far along do you think you are? I think close family you can tell anytime, we told my husbands parents within hours of knowing(we are very close).  I think large families are great, I have two friends that both have/are having 6 children, Both became pregnant with twins while having their 5 pregnancy, one is due pretty soon.  I think there is a notion in peoples head that you can't afford a large family so you must be on assistance, well not everyone is like that soo just ignore them.

Answer 10

,Congratulations to you both and bugger those who are criticising you,if and hubby want 6 then you have 6 enjoy every minute of it, I think kids a joy , tell them when your good and ready, tell the one who has the most to say and she'll probably let everyone else know for you, good luck and I'm glad your excited

Answer 11

The best time is to tell them on a special occasion, like Christmas or Thanksgiving, but since those are still a ways away, use labor day, if all your family gets together to hang out on this day. Hit them hard with the news and don't show any sign of regret, and too F'in bad if they don't like it!  It's your life, not theirs!!!  Congrats on the new one!