When i lost my virginity at 14 i didnt bleed...and still never did after that?

Question

I just turned 18...and when i lost my virginity at 14 i didnt bleed.. it did hurt in the beginning like he was hitting something that hurt but there was no bleeding (maybe a tiny bit on my underwear but nothing big) and ive had s*x after that with my ex when i was 15 and i never bled still! and ive had s*x more than 5 times..why did i never bleed? is this normal? my dad molested me when i was little...but im scared that maybe he did worse like raped me and i dont remember it? help!! =[

Answer 1

Not everyone bleeds first of all. Some people's hymens are already torn from sports, tampons, accidents, etc.

And when you say your dad molested you, that means your dad had s*x with you. Rape is the same thing as molestation, just molestation is generally a term for the raping of a child. So i dont know what you mean by "he might have raped you" if you say he molested you.

So if your dad had s*x with you, he most probably tore your hymen, which can cause the bleeding and extreme discomfort.

Answer 2

im sorry about your  father, he probably stretched your hymen or you were just born without one. its fine that you dont have one, what your dad did was wrong.

Answer 3

if your dad did rape you then he probly broke your hyem or if you were active when you where growing up then it might of broke or it just never bledd so its normal

Answer 4

i am 17 & i had s*x with my bf and for the 1st time it hurted real bad but i didn't bleed either...& i dont know why i didn't bleed :S

Answer 5

wow...14 is young to have s*x.   Its a myth that you bleed a lot the first time...so a tiny bit is normal.  Im sorry for what happened to you when you were a little girl and I hope that you have had some kind of support or counseling.  

Answer 6

All I can say is, hopefully you called the police on your molester dad.  People like molesters, murderers, etc. just degrade society. Where they belong is behind bars forever.

Answer 7

many girls dont bleed during the first time they have s*x because the hymen has been torn previously during normal activities such as riding your bike, riding a horse, or using tampons. dont worry so much about it, you are certainly normal.