When i tarn 19 i want to adop. a baby, but my parents say "NO"! what should i do???

Question

When i tarn 19 i want to adop. a baby, but my parents say "NO"! what should i do???

Answer 1

Find a social worker and talk to her.  She will help  you.

Answer 2

well, most agencies will not allow a person to adopt until a certain age.  You also have to be financially sound.  It is crazy but there is more investigations to adopt a baby when some can have their own with no prior thought.  How sad is that>  I think that adopting is a wonderful idea.  You just have to be ready for the ups and downs that it entails.

Answer 3

Assuming you are serious, what you should do is grow up, move out of your parents' house, and establish your own life before you consider a life-altering, involved, expensive "tarn" of events like adopting an infant.  

Or do you expect your parents to help you with this even though you obviously haven't done one whit of research about how much time, money, and effort is involved in such an undertaking?  You do, don't you?  Maybe Mommy and Daddy don't have 20-40K spare bucks to give you so you can adopt a baby before you're even a legal adult.

Adoptable infants are rare in the US, and there's a very long waiting list.  We don't come out of vending machines, and you don't get one of us just because you think we're cute.  My mother was 21 when she gave me up because she decided she couldn't raise me on her own.  Can you give me one good reason why she should have turned me over to a 19-year-old who needs her parents' permission to parent?

Answer 4

The fact that you have to ask your parents if it's all right for you to adopt a baby should tell you that you're not mature enough to be a parent just yet.

Even if you decide to go through with it, the chances of anyone letting you legally adopt a baby at age 19 are slim to none.

Answer 5

It will be almost impossible for you most of the time you have to be married and older...

Answer 6

Well when you tarn 19 you should learn to spell...... You need to be stable before adopting and Hopefully the adoption agencies check that out.

Answer 7

I am an adoptive parent.  My son is now 3.  I brought him home when he was 7 months old.   I was alot older than you are at the time and adopted as a single mom.  I was fully prepared.  And it was the best thing I've ever done in my whole life- ever.  I love being his mom adn being a mom...  but I don't think I would be prepared for all the sacrifices at age 19.  But I don't know you...  only you know you.  I'd talk to a social worker and see what you need...  do you live on your own?  You know everyone in your household will have to be interviewed and be a part of the process, including criminal record checks...  etc.., and if you live with someone who is not for it, you won't be able to adopt.  Also, can you afford daycare and everything?  For me, daycare for my 3 year old is $180 each week.

Kristy

Answer 8

When you're 19, your parents don't have control over you, so you can do whatever you want. But before you adopt, you should make sure that you are ready for a baby. Do you have a steady source of income that will be enough for both you and your child? Do you have a decent place do live and raise your baby? Do you have the time to take care of a baby? Remember, your child must come first. Above anything. But in the end, its your choice. Just make sure you are ready for the responsibilities.

Answer 9

is this the latest fashion trend or something? NO I dont think you should be adopting any babies when your are 19!!

Answer 10

you should listen to them

Answer 11

Make your own baby - DUH

At 19 you're at your peak fertility, do you know where babies come from?

Learn about the losses adoption really entails. Read some BJ LIfton, research the Primal Wound. Download segments from the Adoption Show.

Answer 12

Listen to your parents. You need a education first. I had my first child at 20 and even back then rasing a child was hard and I was married. Give your self time.

Answer 13

Finish high school and learn how to spell.  Get a college degree.  Find a good partner, and get married.  THEN think about adopting.

Answer 14

In this case I think your parents are being sensible and have your best interests in mind.  There is lots of time in your life for babies.

Answer 15

What did you do with the money your mother gave for schooling? You certaintly didn't use it on learning how to spell. I would put my best interest and money towards a good education before going and putting that hard earned money into an adoption, our economy isn't going to get better financially anytime soon so I'd use it wisely. Think long and hard about why your parents would give you an answer like that besides the fact they're "trying to give you such a hard time". You'll feel better in the end.

Answer 16

at this point in your life, I would take your parent's advice.

Answer 17

I would say that it would be hard to adopt a child being just 19 years old and unmarried. Focus on your life right now.

Get married later in life and have your own family then adopt or vise versa but i would say that no one at the age of 19 will be able to adopt from an adoption agency.

Answer 18

if u can suport a child and u no how to take care of a child and u have looked at the costs of a child and cost of adoption and the income u bring in and how much u use on bills and if u think u have the money time and patience then i would say yea go head. but ur parents are not going to want u coming needing help cuz they might not tell u i told u so but they will be thinking it

Answer 19

I'm sorry, but at 19 there's no agency on the planet that's going to give you a child.

Listen to your parents, grow up, get a life and a job and a future, THEN you can be eligible to adopt.

You might also want to consider some typing and English classes, just so you can fill out the forms legibly.  That helps.

Answer 20

I don't think you should "adop" a baby when you "tarn" 19.

Answer 21

It's very expensive to adopt. You have to pay for a trip to your child's country, and pay for the adoption itself. It's a long process to which you could be refused if single or judged unfit. And then, there's the renting an appartment, buying the diapers, etc, etc...

I say do adopt... But also wait a little longer, when you're mature and when you have enough for you and your child to be comfortable.

Answer 22

You're 18 or over, correct?  That means you're a legal adult.  That means that according to the law, they cannot dictate your major life choices for you.

However, to adopt a child that young in life isn't very wise.  Can you support him/her in both financial and physical needs?  Are you really sure you're prepared for the responsibility?

Try sitting your parents down and explaining your life plan to them.  If they still say "NO", ask them to explain why they feel you aren't yet ready.  Maybe they have some insight to your situation that you don't know yet?

Answer 23

When you are 19 go ahead and apply to an adoption agency.  If you pass all the requirements (psychological and financial) then go ahead and adopt.

Answer 24

Is there a reason you can not have your own baby ?

AT 19 most young single mothers are *unfortunately* giving their baby up for adoption because they can not provide for the baby What makes you think you could provide for a baby with no support and no income ?

Answer 25

definitely look into adoption agencies, they can tell you what to do to prepare for adopting and offer classes. If you're old enough to live on your own, you don't have to listen to your parents, but it still may be wise. If you are living with them, they have every right to tell you that you can't bring a baby home- it will really disrupt their home and routines.

Answer 26

I think you have to be 21 and sometimes older.

Answer 27

You should work on your grammar and spelling for a while if those weren't just typing errors , and are you working ? What do you do ?

Answer 28

Do you feel mature enough to have a child?

If you want to adopt because of underlying love issues you need to remember that it takes love to get love.

Please think things through and look over all of the things that you cant do when you are  a mother. Your freedom is basicially gone and you have to be a selfless person and always put your child first.

Hopefully youll make the right decision and not do it because you woulldn't be ruining your life but you sure would miss out on finding yourself and expeiriences that would make you a better person.

Answer 29

Honey, the adoption social workers will say no also. At 19 they would not approve you to adopt an infant. Only 19 year olds I've heard of adopting have adopted younger siblings after their parents died or something, but even then they are usually made guardians, not adoptive parents.

How old are you now? Don't you want to go to college? Have some fun first! Maybe you'll want to get married. Certainly you'd want to date and have time to discover who you are and what you want to do with your life. When you reach 25, if you still want to adopt, then you can start looking into it more seriously.

Answer 30

Most places a person has to be at least 21 to adopt sometimes older then that. I doubt you are going to find any place that will allow you to adopt at 19.  Get your education or a skill in something, then work for a few years then you can adopt if you still want too when your in your early or mid 20’s.