When i was 7 i was molested by my neighbor's son( he wasnt young he was i think 40)?

Question

and right now he is in jail but not because of me, because he was caught with pot. the subject has started to affect me because now that im 14 it replays in my mind over and over.

i have times where i dont wanna get out of my bed or i just wanna stay on the couch, and eat a bunch of food. i think that i might be a slight depressed, and i dont know how to talk to my mom about it. she knows, but doesnt know about this. i had a period were i didnt sleep at all at night, i would stay up because i was so scared. how do i go to my mom and say, mom i think im depressed, and i wanna get help.

Answer 1

Just like that. My mom went through this ordeal also, but it was her own brothers who did it! She is now in her 60's and it affected her until about 15 years ago. Counseling and talking to your mom is so important. I can't even begin to tell you how it affected our lives. Trust me, you need to talk to your mom. She'll understand and want to help, and if she doesn't (some folks try to hide these things because it breaks their heart too much to confront it) then find someone who will listen and get help. The sooner you do this the sooner you'll be able to put it behind you. Don't wait 50 years like my mom did.

I'll pray for you

Answer 2

If your mum knows about this and didn't tell the police you may have to tell someone else such as a friends parent , teacher or a female relative. He has to do time in jail for this crime or he will come out and abuse other children.

Tell your mum that despite her trying to help you need professional help such as a counsellor now so that you can move on and get over this. If she will not discuss the subject openly with you anymore you must find someone else to talk to that you trust.

If your mum doesn't know what has happened to you write down your feelings as you have here (or print your question out) and give it to your mum.

You need to learn how to love yourself. You are worth it. Your mum loves you - even if she doesn't know how to deal with your feelings she loves you - so just ask her to find you the help you need. She wants you to be happy so she will listen to you and help you I am sure.

Answer 3

say this "mom i think im depressed, and i wanna get help."

Answer 4

the sidran institute specializes in the treatment of trauma and post traumatic effects. check out their website at www.sidran.org

Answer 5

I'm so sorry it happened, but you are so much stronger than that loser! You can pull through!

I think you should just approach your mum when your calm, and tell her that the incident is really effecting you, and that you're depressed and want help. I'm sure she'll be very supportive, and offer help in any form :P

Good luck!

Answer 6

Comon its really esy she is ur mom after all so just go to her and say mom I need help and suggest to go 4 an outing so that u will feel better and then just be frank to her ok and I think every things gonna be alrigt

Answer 7

not too sure on this one, mabey when she's kinda tired you can ask her and just say you cant sleep and been doing some stress eating and think you should talk to someone and it would make you feel better and less anti social and tell her you realy need this for your self and she'l probally understand, im 16 and pregnant with a 23 year olds baby, im kinda depressed too : ( hope we both get better soon! : )

Answer 8

Just go up to her privately and say what you just said to us. :] She's your mom, and she loves you. She should understand what your going through and be happy to get you the help that you need.

Answer 9

My mom went through that when she was 5 or 6 it didn't effect her until she was 25.

Tell you're mom what you told us.

GO to a counselor, talking about it really helps.

Any counselor would help but i would suggest going to one that specializes in rape/molesting.

You should really act up and get this guy convicted. He can do it to other people and you will feel safer knowing that theres no way he can get to you.

this really sucks, but I'm sure you're mom kinda expects something like this to happen, you don't just get over being molested, its a process.

tell her that you can't deal with this anymore and that you want to see a counselor, tell her that you need somebody to talk to.

Answer 10

You have shown great maturity at asessing your own situation.

Basically.....tell her you need to talk to her in private....and when you do....let the words flow.

I assume she will help you get to a professional.

If for any reason she won't, there are county or city agencies you can go to for help.   Check in your handheld yellow pages and go to the blue pages of Government agencies.  You can look for mental health agencies, or call the main number at the beginning at the section.

GOOD LUCK TO YOU.

Answer 11

i totally know wut ur going through

and i would talk to my mom n tell her how im feeling

u'll feel better

n by you even being open its showing your almost readii to talk bout it

GOOD LUCKK!

Answer 12

Sweetheart, you did a beautiful job of telling us here , and if you approach mom in the  same way, she will move heaven and earth to get you the help you need.  I was 10 when my 16 y/o babysitter wanted to give me "something  nice" in case no one would ever want me.  Being depressed is not a crime, it's a condition.  I take anti-deps, and will for life because i have a chemical imbalance that they corect.  Tell mom, and SHOP for the right TP (thereapist) for you.  You don't have tot takethe first one you find; find onethat fits YO.  My TP has gotten me through some pretty rought times, starting when I went INside  (a term we used in the hospital) the firs time at 14.  Dad supported me all the way, and did everything he could for me to get help, including driving me tot he hospital when i needed to go  INside.  My TP and I dont see  each other on 'regular' basis, but i can call, email, or page her if i need her.    Talk to mom, jsut like you did, and things will start getting a bit brighter.  I would like to shae one morething with you, something we did when i was INside first, then in therapy.   "You first must realize that you are a survivor, not a victim, NOT ANY MORE.  You are going to get better, because you don't wantthese feelings, NOT ANY MORE!" we used to yell that at least once a day. more if he staff tolerated it, which they did.  If you need a hand to hold on when you starthis new part of your life, mine is always out thee, as was my friends was to me when i started.  You ca ndo this.  You dont have to feel bad. NOT ANY MORE!