When im in a public place by myself i have zero confidence. What can i do to fix that?

Question

Like its hard to explain and out of character for me, Because i have always had a "i dont care about what anyone else thinks about me" attitude and i was very happy. But latley, if I go somewhere by myself, like tonight i went clothes shopping, i just feel pressured. It feels like everyone is starring at me and i start to sweat and turn red and start to rush. This has never happend to me before tonight. Im always cool about everything, make small talk with other shoppers, have a good time. Now i need people with me, or at least one person, and i feel fine. Whats going on??? I cant explain it its its really bothering me. I cant go out without feeling pressure or having a feeling of embarresment. Help me please?

Answer 1

See a therapist for it. They can help you boost up your self confidence. I used to have low self confidence too, plus other problems, and my mom got me a therapist, and I've been seeing her for a few years now, and it's been helping a lot.

Answer 2

You are suffering a panic attack.  Try to get someone to help you through it.  It may be that you feel cut adrift after high school graduation.  Which is not surprising.  But you have your whole life ahead of you and its going to be great.  Just make good choices and you'll be ok.

Answer 3

Maybe you are feeling a little anxious about all the changes that are  going on in your life right now.  You just graduated high school, maybe you are going to college in a few weeks, your relationships with your friends are going to be very different, and you are transitioning from adolescence to adulthood.   Phew, that's a lot for anyone to handle alone!

Maybe having someone with you when you go out gives you a sense of security in the midst of all these changes.  It's completely normal to have anxiety when you are under a lot of stress and dealing with a lot of change at once.  Talking to a counselor or a good friend, or even your parents about it might be helpful.  

You seem like a nice kid.  I hope you feel better soon.  Good luck!