When is a relationship beyond repair?

Question

My ex ran off with another man, she has all but given our son to me and she has dug the knife in every chance she gets. Every part of my logical being says run while the opportunity lasts. Unfortunately my emotions are not following logic, I love her and find myself making excuses for her and blaming situations not people. My question is not should I get back together with her, I know I should not, My question is this relationship fixable or is it way beyond that?

Answer 1

If she ran off with another man it's way over. Cut her loose, you don't need to continue to put yourself through something that's not there anymore. I'm not married myself but, I've got enough friends who are going through the samething. Do yourself a favor, get shared custody and move on.

I'm sorry to even hear that even happens to a man that made a commitment to marry a woman. Though it hurts deeply, it doesn't stop you from living.

Answer 2

yes this relationship is fixable,it works both way,both of you want it.u can make it happen.hope this helps.now my question is WHY THE f**k WOULD YOU WANT TO TRY THINGS BETTER WITH SOMEONE WHO WENT AND FUCKED ANOTHER MAN?

Answer 3

Think logically and not emotionally. Our emotions get us in trouble. Good luck.

Answer 4

If she has no interest then I am sorry but it is beyond.  

Answer 5

Truthfully it sounds like its beyond repair.  The fact that she has left your son with you (not that you are a bad father) and gone off with someone else says it all really.

She has hurt the two people in her life that she should have loved the most.  She has betrayed you and abandoned her son. Sorry but she sounds like a selfish *****.

Of course you love her, you had a child with her.  Does she still have contact with your child? Does she seem bothered by the fact that she has chose another man over her child?

Why would you want her back if she hurt you so badly?

Yes you do love, in a way you probably always will as she is the mother of your child together. But I think you know in your heart that if she is willing to abandon her child for another man she has no heart.

If she came back and you tried to work things out, do you honestly hand on heart believe that you could trust her?

Why do you want her back?  Is it for your child or for you?  And also why did she leave? Were you having problems?

My advice is concentrate on you and your son for the moment.  You have to be strong for him.  Tell yourself that it wasn't your fault.  She is at fault.  You can do better than her when the time comes that you want to try and find another partner.

But for now you and your son are first and foremost.

Try and rebuild what she has clearly shattered.  You need to move on.

Good Luck

Answer 6

I think it's safe to say it's time to move on and take care of your son he needs you right now  

Answer 7

Let me first off by saying that I been there and done that. I have two boys from that awful marriage. It was a very rough road for us. they live with me full time. Their mother have not talked to them since one week after 9-11. Let me tell you I tried everything in my power to save that marriage. The relationship started off good and then I find out that she left another man for me. She wanted him back and was sleeping with him. I should have gotten out then, but I didn't. Well that didn't work out. So here I go and other three year and 95 my first son was born. Two years later my second son came along.The last few month before he came into this world she said that she was in love with another man.

Well I went threw h**l and back after that. She came back. After that we moved to my home town. Guess what from 97-2001 she cheated and cheat over and over again. Like being dragged across broken glass over and over again. Ask your self this question. Do you want to put you and your child threw this pain?

If not you need to get you guy into some counseling. Get into a church and give your self to God. Let him guide you to happiness.. Let her go and if it is meant for you two to be together then it will happen. But if not God will give you something 10 times better. See I am right now I am going threw a heart Ache right now. Me and my g/f of three year just separated. I gave myself to God and start counciling in 2 weeks. I relized a lot since I gave my self to God. I know that the things I am doing for me and my boys is the best thing I could have done. The bad thing is that it took 11 years for me to realize that your past will haunt you if you don't put closure to them. I hope this will help. You can email me if you need someone to talk to cause I know what it is like to be alone in this situation and going threw it right now. God bless you and I will put you in my prayors.