When is a relationship past fixable (2nd Post)?

Question

My ex ran off with another man, she has all but given our son to me and she has dug the knife in every chance she gets. Every part of my logical being says run while the opportunity lasts. Unfortunately my emotions are not following logic, I love her and find myself making excuses for her and blaming situations or myself but never her for her actions. My question is not should I get back together with her, I know I should not, My question is this relationship fixable or is it way beyond that?

Answer 1

She does not want to be with you, my friend. She's being mean and vindictive. The best thing you can do is to make sure your son has a good childhood and, when the time is right, find a real woman to share your life with. Nothing good ever came of being p*ussy-whipped by a dirty w***e.

Answer 2

your relationship is way beyond help. move on. just worry about bettering yourself and you will find a woman who will love and treat you with respect.

Answer 3

It's takes two to make a marriage work. If you both aren't working on it, then it is destine to fail. I would suggest counseling for yourself and your son. Maybe you can find out why you forgive someone who takes advantage of you.

Answer 4

Its history! If she doesn't even want her own children, she isn't worth the hassle to try to get her back. you need to understand what she has done to you and not only you but your son as well. Make a better life for you and your son than you have in the past. Stop thinking of her as your wife. She has made her decision so the best ting for you to do, is stop dreaming and wake up! Be a good Dad and do what you can for your son.

Answer 5

No relationship is un fixable( is that a word?) However, this situation seems like an extremely difficult one to overcome.  My fiance broke up with me and told me to hit the road.  i thought it was over, but fixed the problems and made it work.  I guess what i'm saying is that in all the relationship repair books I read, they always mentioned that the are all able to be repaired, if you want it bad enough.  I would easily move on.  Easier said than done.  I know how you feel.  So, I'll stop rambling and say yes, this relationship can be fixed if both parties wish it to be.

Answer 6

Not fixable.........move on and take care of yourself.

Answer 7

The relationship is not fixable!

Sometimes you have to look past the smoke in order to see what's really in front of you. As much as you may try to see the good in your partner the reality is that...that person is caustic to you & your child. Believe me it is painful to get over situations like these but know that...time heals all wounds however work on creating & maintaining an environment that will be beneficial to your child...I wish you well  

Answer 8

Agreed NOT FIXABLE,

Find the woman that has been waiting for you to become single for the past 8 months!

Don't remarry right away,

She's out there, Look over your shoulder once in a while

Answer 9

No I would definately say that you should get rid of her.  You are emotional towards her due to the fact that you have a child(ren) together, and it is heart warming to hear that you are that way.  That shows how deep your love for your child goes. You need to take a break from her (if possible) and get to know yourslef and what makes you happy, then get yourself someone who does good for you and that works well with you.

Good luck!

Answer 10

this relationship is not fixable.

u are being illogical, as u urself have agreed upon that

and if she wanted to 'fix' things, she wud have done so by now

she ran off with someone for reasons that she knows. for a mature woman to make such a decision means that she made that decision after calculating everything

however, if she is an immature woman ... then why wud u wanna be with her anyways??

take ur own (the only good thing that came out of this) and move on in ur life. emotions are UR emotions. over time, u will learn to control them. get some more self respect for urself and think of ur son everytime u feel the need to run back to her. think of how he deserves a GOOD and LOVING mother who has more respect for the word 'family' than this ex of urs.

gluck

and i hope u get over her ... not only for ur sake, but also for ur sons.

Answer 11

Stop making excuses and blaming yourself for her shortcomings.  This is all her fault, and it is time for you to close this sad chapter of your life and move on.  

Answer 12

You need to move on.  She apparently has

Linda

Answer 13

It is beyond fixable and it is your job as a parent to not let her run in and out of the house and confuse your child. He needs to see what a stable home is like, not this.  

Answer 14

I think you can fix any relationship if that's what you both want and try your best to do! If your girl has changed then you will see that in the way she acts towards you and as she tries to regain your trust. If she realized that running off with someone else wasn't the right thing to do and realized that she does love you and want to be with you then maybe she has changed and then you both can work on your relationship. She has to show and prove to you though that she really wants the relationship to work and that she's not going to do the same thing to you again. I would lay down some strict guidelines for her and if she really wants to be with you then you should see a change in her. I would stop making excuses for her though and she should know that she has done wrong and apologize and be at your mercy if you do decide to take her back. Hope everything works out for you. Good luck!  

Answer 15

Dude, there isn't a magic pill to get through this.  Myself, I still loved my wife so much, but I finally understood that she will never change and that I would only be miserable with her.  After taking her back 4 times, I was finally convinced.  I took her back, so I would get over her if you will.  That way, when I finally got away from her I was able to move on mentally as well as physically.

So, if you take her back and then after a week or so you say to yourself that you screwed up letting her back; well that is a sign to tell you it is time to end the relationship.  Hope that makes sense.

I took her back and then pretty quickly realized that I'm better off without her.  Shortly after that, I ask her for a divorce.

Good Luck.

Answer 16

Its over...get on with your life...she won't change...