When is a wedding gift thank you sent?

Question

I sent my gift through a registry 5 weeks before a wedding, and I just wondered if the bride waits until she opens the gift to acknowledge receipt and she waits 2-3 weeks until after she's married before she does this, am I supposed to wait 2 months to find out whether the store ever sent it? Wouldn't it be better for it to be opened when received and a thank you sent within a week? Need to know when those thank you cards are expected... so I can tell my daughter when she gets married. It's awful to think that the store with the registry could be collecting so much revenue for gifts never sent.

Answer 1

From my past experiences of thank you notes for birthdays and graduation gifts, you are supposed to send them no more than two weeks after the gift has been received. But, if you have some relatives that are very anxious people, you may as well send them within a week. Just make sure to keep a list of the people who sent the gifts that way you know how many stamps to purchase. Congratulations on your daughter blessing of a new love! God Bless! I hope this was helpful...

Answer 2

My understanding is that usually the bride and groom send out all of their thank you cards together after they have returned from their honeymoon. I could be wrong, but this is what I thought.  

Answer 3

if it was me, I would wait until after the wedding to open the present. Everybody is different...whenever she opens it, she should send the card ASAP...probably within a 2 week range atleast!

Answer 4

I have read that, etiquette-wise, the couple has up to 3 months after the wedding to send back the thank you note.  If you've ever planned a wedding in recent times, you will know that they are very busy, and even after the wedding, the couple might be on their honeymoon, then possibly be moving.  So please try to understand why it can be a while.

As for your gift, I think you're being a bit paranoid about whether it was sent or not; but you can always call and ask if it arrived.  Better yet, many times the company will give you a tracking number so you can track the shipment.

Hope that helps!

Answer 5

I would say she should send the card within a week or two after she opens it. I got one or two wedding gifts before the wedding, and I opened them and sent out a thank you the next day. My wedding thank yous were sent out a week after the weddding!

Answer 6

Wedding gifts should be opened as soon as they are received, and the thank-you should be written immediately -- for exactly the reasons you specify. The notion that the couple "has three months" -- or six weeks, or a year, or whatever the latest legend is -- is an error. Guests should understand that gifts sent very close to the ceremony won't be acknowledged until the couple returns from the honeymoon; that is obvious. And guests will understand if it takes a week or two to get the cards out since several presents may be sent at once. But the bride has no time to procrastinate and rest on her heels thinking she "has three months". Thank-yous are correctly made as close to "immediately" as humanly possible.

For those who, for whatever reason, have already waited three months or three years, as close to immediately as is humanly possible is NOW -- and it is still correct to write those notes NOW (as you certainly cannot do it any sooner).

Answer 7

Usually the brides will send the thank you cards soon after the wedding (within a few weeks)- that way they can thank the guests for their gift as well as attending the wedding at the same time.

If most of the gifts are given before the wedding, often the bride will write out all of the thank you cards before the wedding but then post them a day or 2 after the wedding to save time.

Also- the bride may not have received the gifts yet. Generally the shop will store all of the gifts purchased from the registry up until a certain date (usually a day or 2 before the wedding) and then deliver them altogether. This saves them a lot on postage costs as they are able to deliver with their own trucks. If the wedding hasn't happened yet, your gift may still be in storage.